Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Adoption Month Blatherings

Well, well, well.

Life has certainly been quite inconsiderate of the fact that this is National Adoption Awareness Month, and that I had a host of things I wished to do in celebration of all inappropriately touched by adoption.

Where do I begin?

You may remember that both Dr. Ungrateful and I have found ourselves unwilling participants in the LOLfest known as teh economy is teh suck, adding the two of us to the ever-growing pool of over educated and/or over qualified middle-aged professionals watching TV in the middle of the afternoon instead of being gainfully employed.

I'm actually still (resentfully) working at this point however that is about to come to a crashing halt soon. My original end date was October 1st, but I was able to wrangle a stay of execution to next Wednesday. If an internal job offer comes through after the umpteen million interviews (ok actually 14)  I've been on over the past few months I get to live, but I'm not hopeful. We've had a massive *cough*cough* "workforce reduction" (i.e., hemorrhaging jobs to India and Brazil) so considering the fact that there's someone equally qualified on the other side of the world who is more than happy to do my job for a lot less money, I'm screwed.

Our beloved house continues to sit on the market in a sea of foreclosures and short sales; ditto for our beloved plot of land down south that we had intended to retire to one day, so there's not much belovedness to go around right now.

To add insult to injury, my adoptive mother had a heart attack late Halloween night, landing her in cardiac ICU. She's out of danger right now but given her unwillingness to follow doctor's orders, I'm expecting a repeat performance any time now.

So. Adding adoption news to digg - totally out the window. Tweeting about adoption -- totally out the window. RegDay -- totally out the window. Re-doing this old blog template that I am seriously tired of --  totally out the window. Adoption conference in NJ -- totally out the window.

How rude.

However there are little projects going on here and there behind the scenes. You know me, never happy unless I have a techie project or two or three to (mis)manage. I'm testing out a new app on Facebook later today that will either be successful beyond my wildest expectations, or a epic failure of  proportions heretofore unreported in the history of all time (it's always extremes with me). There' are other little things going on too, so if you feel like giving a hand and you've got either Google Spreadsheet or MS Excel experience, drop me a line. Even better, if you can create a functional Yahoo Pipe or scrape an API, I'll be your slave for real.

I'm hoping to get back on Twitter and Digg very soon, especially since my  Adoption2.0 idol, the one, the only, the fantabulistic new media maven of all things new media Claud actually called me, yes me, little old me,  a "community trust agent". Flattered is an understatement. Seriously, I could die tomorrow a happy woman, my life's work completed.

That's the nicest thing anyone's ever called an old nerd like me.

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Sunday, October 25, 2009

Do you think they're making a new feature cartoon?

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If so, I demand Fran Drescher do my voice.

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Friday, October 23, 2009

Adoptees with need for medical history

Reposting via Ann Wilmer, please share and repost

A reporter for a national publication is interested in writing a story about the problems adoptees encounter when they have a medical need to know. If you have personal experience of this situation, contact me, please.

Ann can be contacted at wilmer@dmv.com

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Thursday, October 22, 2009

Nurse your hangover with OBCforME

Why yes, my hangover does last 2 days, thank you very much. I have absolutely no alcohol tolerance. Anyway...





Mark your calendars!

Maine Celebrates One Year of Original Birth Certificates!

Come to Maine, celebrate with us! We have reached a milestone, our one year mark since original birth certificates were made available to adult adoptees here in Maine.


We will have lots of activities planned for this day - updates on the schedule of events will be posted soon!

 

Date:
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Time:
9:00am - 9:00pm
Location:
The Maine Film Studios
Street:
235 Presumpscot Street
City/Town:
Portland, ME

 

Facebook RSVP: http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/event.php?eid=200446990464&ref=mf


Link to OBCforME: http://www.obcforme.org/

 

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Saturday, October 17, 2009

Wow

Via AdultAdoptees

Check this out

The right to obtain a copy of one’s own birth certificate is routinely exercised by all citizens, unless you were adopted. Although parent-child relationships are supposed to be fundamental and constitutionally protected, children’s relationships with their parents, grandparents, siblings and other family members are routinely and permanently severed, first, by the inadvertent effect of the unrepresented birthparent(s)’ signature on surrender documents and, second, by a court’s judgment of adoption. The child has no guardian ad litem, attorney or other qualified person to represent and protect his or her interests and the adoption statute does not require it.

Due process in adoption? Hardly

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Wednesday, October 07, 2009

The 15th Annual RegDay is November 14, 2009

Please repost freely

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The 15th Annual RegDay is November 14, 2009



Adoption Registration Day (RegDay) is an annual one day event to increase public awareness of the International Soundex Reunion Registry; a free humanitarian service better known as ISRR. ISRR is a non-profit mutual consent registry established in 1975 dedicated to reuniting adult family members separated by adoption, divorce, foster care, or other dislocation.

But RegDay is so much more than that. RegDay is a day where members of the adoption triad (adoptees, adoptive parents and birthparents) set up tables in public locations and meet face to face other members of the triad and the public in general, sharing their stories and information. It’s a day to encourage those touched by adoption, and let them know they are not alone.

RegDay is a day to meet others in the triad and form a search and/or support group in your local area, or to welcome them into a group that already exists.

Remember when you first started being involved in adoption issues, wasn’t it important, or just nice, to meet in person others who had been there or were going through the same thing.

The internet is a great search and support resource, but so much of that personal contact is missing. RegDay gives us an opportunity to get that back.

RegDay is also a day to tell someone about that special adoption related book that helped you so much. It’s a day to provide resources from internet links to national organizations. It’s also a day to provide information about adoption reform that is still needed in so many states, and a way to connect with others who also see that need.

RegDay can be a social event, hanging out with members of your support group at the same time providing a valuable service, or becoming friends with other volunteers that you just met.

The friendships you build on RegDay can last a lifetime…. Volunteer Now!!

To learn more about RegDay go to http://www.regday.org. Sites are currently being secured in several states, but more are still needed.

If you can coordinate a site in your area, or would like to volunteer to help at an existing site, join the Yahoo Mailing Group for RegDay Site Coordinators and volunteers at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/regday/ or send a message at http://www.myspace.com/regday

It is easy to do RegDay!

Thank you,
Petra B. Wynbrandt (RegDay National Coordinator 2005-2009)
email: regdaynationalcoordinator@gmail.com

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Tuesday, October 06, 2009

Next Long Island Adoptee Meetup - Thursday, October 15th

If you're on the Island, c'mon down.











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Sunday, October 04, 2009

October is the douchiest of months

So here's my nagging, begging, pleading,  self indulgent birthday wish.

So serious here. If there's even one post on this blog you've ever liked, I'm begging you on this one, honestly. 

The bold text below, please highlight it and copy it:




I support an adult adoptee's right to their own original birth certificate, without restrictions, conditions or limitations.





Then click this link, and paste it into the comment box, fill in the rest of the fields and send 'er on it's way to the Chairman of the Pennsylvania Task Force on Adoption Law.

That's all, I'm so damn easy to please, really.

Now if you want to personalize it a bit, I'd love that more. If you want to actually send a snail mail letter I'd be your loyal slave, truth.

If you personalize it, send a snail mail letter and just so happen to actually live in Pennsylvania's 12th District, forget it, I'm yours for life.


Really, please.

It's been a while since I've posted about the draconian, degrading and downright douchy Pennsylvania system for getting your birth certificate, so older readers please indulge me while I dredge up some ingratitude from the archives.

From 2007:

Let's take a little peek at the rules here:


Q: What happens if a biological parent files a consent form after the Division of Vital Records processes a request?

A: If consent is received at a later date, the identifying information will not be sent to the adoptee. Therefore, an adoptee may wish to request periodically to determine if a consent form has been filed.


Sounds mundane, right? It's not, it's anything but.

If you're an adoptee registering with the State.... well, that in itself is wrong. Adoptees are not allowed to register. Only natural parents. Adoptees are invited to send $10 to the state to see if their parents have registered. They'll cash your check either way.

But remember - YOU are not registering. You are paying the state a fee to have a data processing clerk with access to YOUR personal information and the personal information on your parents pull up your birth certificate record in the computer, and see if there's a field flagged saying mom or dad even knows about this non publicized registry.

Even better, this means, if Vital Records gets your form on a Tuesday, cashes your check, peeks in their computer, sends you off a Sorry! letter, and then on Wednesday gets a registration form from your mom or dad - they will NOT notify you.



Oh - by the way. Got a relationship with your family of origin? Want them to fill out a mommy-may-I permission slip for you? Rotsa ruck. Check out the line in bold italics below from this page.


Q: How can a biological parent register identifying information?

A: A biological parent whose child was born in Pennsylvania may file a Biological Parent Registration Identification Form with the Department of Health.  Please click here to download the form.  Forms may also be requested by calling the Division of Vital Records at 1-877-PA-HEALTH 

Try clicking that 'click here' link, sports fans.

Yeah, they know that link is broken. It's been on their to-do list to fix it. Since 2006, I think.

So do an old Pennsylvania Orphan a favor and send that note. And if you're on Facebook and have a Pennsylvania connection, a hard-working Facebook and Twitter friend pulled an all-nighter creating a little page for people with PA on their mind. She's a bi-local like me, birth certificate tied up in one state and working for change in another.  So show her some support and join up on her page. That would make me happy too.







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Saturday, October 03, 2009

Required Reading: “Sorry, Mrs. Smith” — Looking Beyond The Story

Seriously, go here now.


“Sorry, Mrs. Smith” — Looking Beyond The Story

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Sad addendum to Linda Joy's story

Commenter Ex-in-the-City noted on the previous post that unfortunately Linda Joy died of leukemia shortly after her second birthday.

Life reported on this in their their April 23, 1951 issue.

8 months later Life reported 'Boy takes Linda Joy's place'

I have no words.

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Thursday, October 01, 2009

Where's Linda Joy today?

Everyone who has read Anne Fessler's "The Girls Who Went Away" will remember the description of Life Magazine's 1951 cover story on the joys of adoption



Now that Google Books has indexed Life's archives, you can read it online.

Pretty bizarro.

I wonder what Linda Joy thinks about this now?





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Saturday, September 26, 2009

I wonder if Paul ever searched

Via

And then, I wonder if he found.

I wonder if he had any friends to support him. I wonder if they said things that hurt or if they helped.

Or I wonder if he didn't tell anyone what he found, if he kept it hidden as protection from what people would say to him.

People say stupid shit to us. What Paul would have found could have opened up a whole sewage processing plant of stupid. Seriously, other than, "Are you alright?", what could you say?

I wonder if he regretted searching.

I don't think I would have regretted. No matter what, the knowing outweighs everything. But then again, I wouldn't know, would I?

I wonder if he knows she's gone.

I wonder if he's OK.

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Thursday, September 24, 2009

You can't make this stuff up




Really, now.

Glad to know there's one site on the web where you can get all your human and animal adoption needs covered

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