Sunday, December 09, 2007

Couple give up child adopted 7 years ago

Note: I've been digging adoption news lately as opposed to posting them, because it's faster that way. For some reason this morning I couldn't get this story dugg, so I'm posting it here.

Couple give up child adopted 7 years ago
Diplomat and wife turn out girl, 8
Barclay Crawford
Dec 09, 2007

A high-ranking diplomat and his wife have given up to Hong Kong authorities the daughter they adopted seven years ago in Korea when she was just four months old.

The diplomat and his wife handed the girl over to the Social Welfare Department last year.

The case has prompted appeals to find new parents for the child among the Korean community in Hong Kong, and comes amid international debate about families adopting children from other cultures.

An Irish couple caused a furore when they returned a child to an Indonesian orphanage in 2005, saying the adoption did not work out. Recently, a French charity sparked controversy with plans to take 103 children from Chad in central Africa to France for adoption.

The Korean girl has been in foster care with an expatriate family since being handed over to social workers in Hong Kong. The diplomat and his wife gave her up after having two children of their own and the Social Welfare Department has been working to find her a new permanent home.

The South Korean consulate says she was not naturalised as a citizen of her adoptive parents' country and is not a Hong Kong resident. This leaves her residency status in the city in doubt. The girl is attending school and speaks Cantonese and English, but not Korean.

The diplomat, who has a senior management role at a European consulate in the city, yesterday said the child had been adopted by his family while he was based at his country's embassy in South Korea. The adoption had gone wrong, he said.

The diplomat said the family was trying "hard to deal with it" and had consulted experts. His wife was seeking therapy following the decision to give up the child.

"It's just a very terrible trauma that everyone's experiencing," he said. "I don't have anything to say to the public. It is something we have to live with.

"My Foreign Ministry knows about my situation. I have also been in touch with the Hong Kong government and they have been very helpful to me and so has my own employer."

The diplomat declined to say whether his family was in touch with the child.

"We are doing everything with the Hong Kong government and Social Welfare Department to find a solution," he said. "That's as much as I can tell you. We are trying our best."

A Korean magazine has twice published appeals to Hong Kong-based Koreans to find the girl a home.

"She was adopted by a ... couple in January 2000, who were living in Korea at that time," the magazine said, citing the Social Welfare Department.

"Her adoptive mother, who had been thought to be sterile, has since had her own two children so they gave her up for adoption."

The South Korean consulate confirmed it was aware of the situation and said it had been flooded with offers of help.

Many in the community have expressed anger and bewilderment at the treatment of the girl.

Inn Hae Morgan, who has been in touch with the Social Welfare Department, said the concern centred on the welfare of the child.

"We have been told she is well and happy," she said.

"It's hard to understand what the circumstances would be that a child who has been with a family for so many years would be abandoned."

Social welfare sector legislator Fernando Cheung Chiu-hung said there would be issues with the child's nationality and she might have to return to Korea before she could find a new family.

A spokesman for the Social Welfare Department said it would comment on the case later.

Korean law does not permit adoptive parents to return their children. There is no similar law in Hong Kong.

9 complaints from ingrates:

Lauren December 9, 2007 at 7:02 AM  
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Lauren December 9, 2007 at 7:04 AM  

Sorry for that delete. I didn't edit my post before I sent it and it was rife with grammatical errors.

Just one more story/reason that makes it impossible for me to understand why people can't/don't/won't see adoption as babyselling: only when you have "purchased" something can you "return" it.

Of course, the only store I know of that lets you return something after 7 years is Costco (seriously, if you still have the receipt, you can return your 7 year old purchase, no questions asked)--obviously that's where they got this child from, because no one seems to be batting an eye that this child is being "returned". Seriously, shouldn't some human rights group be up in arms about this??

How terribly, terribly sad.

Possum December 9, 2007 at 8:19 AM  

I'm speechless.
Praying for a little adoptee tonight.
Poss. xxxx

Sang-Shil December 9, 2007 at 11:56 AM  

This is absolutely horrifying. Being returned is the fear of so many adoptees, and we are told that it's not possible, that adoption is all about permanency, a loving home, that our adoptive families are our "forever families"... and then we read about things like this.

I am so sick and saddened and angry that I don't know where to start.

Ungrateful Little Bastard December 10, 2007 at 11:09 AM  

It's disgusting beyond words. I'm seeing more posts about it now and will get an update with links later on today.

Unknown December 10, 2007 at 4:23 PM  

this is sick and wrong on so many levels.if adoption really was the same as and "as if born to" then why are they returning her.
it's more proof that adoption is rooted in ownership and where in this article did they give a reason as to why they returned her.the truth is,real families dont just return their children when difficulties arise.thats something mostly adopters do.

my heart goes out to this child and others like her.

Anonymous,  December 12, 2007 at 8:03 AM  

A similar thing happened to a friend of mine.

She was returned by her first set of adoptors because she was "too ugly". Seriously, that was in her file.

This is just so disgraceful.

How selfish are these adopters - they are only going on about their own "trauma" What about the trauma they inflicted on that poor girl.

It is always about the adoptors.


PS - My son's adoptors blamed me for his "bad" genes because he is not a Ph'D like their bio children.

My son even said to me "I don't know why they even adopted me. They keep telling me how disappointed they are with me".

They stole my son from me - and now they are complaining about the fact that he is NOT like them.
(I didn't sign adoption papers - the CCAS admits that they took babies from fit parents and gave them to wealthy ones who could "make a donation" - read "bribe")

Very selfish - I could spit sometimes.

Ungrateful Little Bastard December 14, 2007 at 12:42 AM  

It still upsets me. I'm not totally buying the new RAD excuse either. There are too many other indications that they did not consider her the same status as their natural children. Her lack of citizenship is a disgrace. They want us to believe she's been so incredibly ill for the entire last 7 years that someone who is a diplomat couldn't have one of his assistants take the time to get her legal citizenship? I don't believe that.

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