Sunday, December 30, 2007

Grand Opening - ILLINOIS OPEN

GRAND OPENING

PLEASE FORWARD FREELY

ILLINOIS OPEN
http://www.ilopen.org
OBC@ILOPEN.ORG


MISSION STATEMENT
Illinois Open advocates the issuing to all Illinois adult adoptees,
upon request and unconditionally, a copy of their unaltered original birth certificate.


GOALS

Illinois Open is an informational organization. Its goals are to educate the public about sealed records as well as locate grassroots supporters for open records in Illinois.



Currently, the only way adopted adults in Illinois can receive a copy of their original birth certificate is by petitioning the court and showing good cause, a lengthy, costly, and time consuming process.



Illinois Open is asking the State of Illinois to repeal or amend its Adoption Act so that all adopted adults can get their original birth certificate in the same manner as all non-adopted citizens.

We want to hear from you. Please write to us at obc@ilopen.org .

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The Adoption Show - Sunday December 30, 2007

THE ADOPTION SHOW
VOICES ENDING THE MYTH
WWW.THEADOPTIONSHOW.COM

Sunday December 30, 2007
8:30 PM (EST)

Join guests and friends in the chat room after the show!
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Guests

Margie Perscheid & Marsha Roberts

MARGIE PERSCHEID
Margie Perscheid is the adoptive mother of two children, both of whom are Korean and are now teens. She has been active in the Korean adoption community in Washington, DC since 1989, when her first child joined her family. In 1996, she and a like-minded group of friends founded Korean Focus ( www.koreanfocus.org), an organization for adoptive families with Korean children that offers educational and cultural programs and services to families in the DC area. Margie writes about her adoption experience and adoptive parenting on her blog Third Mom ( thirdmom.blogspot.com), has written for several Korean American and adoption publications, and dreams of one day completing the compendium of writings of adoptive parents to their Korean children's first mothers that she's been working on forever. Margie is also an advocate for open records and family preservation.

MARSHA ROBERTS
Marsha Roberts is the mother of 5 children, 2 of whom are internationally adopted from China . She adopted her daughter Miaoxin at age 2 1/2 in 2006 and her son Qi at age 8 1/2 in the summer of 2007. She is the co-founder of a website called Informed Adoption Advocates at www.informedadoptions.com and her goal is to educate and inform adoptive and prospective adoptive parents about the many complex issues regarding international adoption. She is also an adoptee, having been adopted by her paternal grandparents at the age of 4. She met her mother again at age 18 and has been in reunion for 14 years. She is an advocate of open records, adoptee rights, first parent rights and pro-family preservation whenever possible.

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Friday, December 28, 2007

I dig digg

I’m really late to the whole social bookmarking thing. I hung back for a while because I didn’t really get the idea of it. Then after some time and surfing around, I still hung back some more. I wanted to see if anyone else was using it for adoption related news, because I’m lazy like that.

A few months ago adoption news stories started coming into my google alerts faster than I could post them, so I signed up for a few bookmarking sites and started to see which one I liked the best, just as a way to keep these stories saved. Each one has their plusses and minuses but I’ve settled on digg. This is just the test of one person, but it seemed to me that stories I dugg wound up being indexed by Google faster than at the other sites. Case in point, a story I dugg this morning hit my inbox again via a google alert 30 minutes after I submitted it.

This post came about from a very nice email I received from someone saying they missed the adoption news stories I used to post, and they couldn’t see my digg widget because they read me in a reader. I’ll post here what I replied to her: you can still read the news stories in a reader by adding this feed.

Digging the stories is so much faster than blogging them, and it gets them exposed to people outside the warm and fuzzy world of adoption bloggers.

Also, surprise, surprise, someone dugg me:
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Which of course prompted the obligatory negative comment:


But hey, I was touched. How kind to digg me.

I’m still learning the ins and outs of the site. There’s a certain kindness protocol of digging stories that other users dugg which I’m still trying to find out a more efficient way to do, but for the most part I’ve found it a good place to keep all the adoption news stories in one place. Unless anyone else has a better recommendation. I find digg’s categories somewhat limiting.

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Wednesday, December 26, 2007

What was the top adoption news story in 2007?

For the love of all that is holy, please, please, I'm on my knees begging you, please get over to about.com and vote that Angelina Jolie story that's in the lead down.

Please.

I'll do anything, I swear.

Please do not let that be the most important adoption news story of 2007.

Jesus Christ.

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Rigmarole

Age and occupation

Two tiny things.

That’s all I want right now.

An age, and an occupation.

I’ve asked for it a few times, and been denied each time. Why?

I’m entitled to it by state law.

It’s supposed to be kept safe in a permanent record for me. I shouldn’t have to go through this rigmarole just to get it.

By the way, don’t you love the word rigmarole? I so rarely get to use it, but it’s so apt.

Webster’s defines it as a complex and sometimes ritualistic procedure. It makes one think Noah Webster needed to petition the state of Pennsylvania for his non-identifying information. Repeatedly.

It is a ritual. My petition is a holy document. I read it again. And again. And again. I have the sections memorized the way some people can recite bible verses on command. I print it out, take it to get notarized, send it off, and wait to be denied. Same result as praying.

Here’s the church I send it to:




This holy place holds all my mysteries. Or at least a clue. Just one clue.

In 1963: My father’s age. My father’s occupation. One other person knows, but she’s as silent and unreachable as God.

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Tuesday, December 25, 2007

About neither adoption nor xmas

For anyone who has had it up to here with both right now, here's one of the most beautiful things I've ever seen:


July 11, 2004
Montreal

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Monday, December 24, 2007

A CHRISTMAS VIGIL

From Coleman Moms and Babes


I'm dating this one in the future so the post stays on top until Christmas Eve. I'll be lighting a candle, and I'll light one online too. This is one of my favorite websites:

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Ninth Annual Christmas Eve Candle Lighting

As the world lights candles in preparation to celebrate the birth of a child who changed the course of history on Christmas Eve, New England First Mothers (NEFM), the Canadian Council of Natural Mothers (CCNM) and over 800 members of the Sunflower Birth Mothers (SBM) will celebrate Christmas Eve by lighting a candle in memory of births which changed their own personal histories. This year will mark the 9th Annual Christmas Eve Candle Lighting for these women.

These three groups are of natural mothers from around the world, who have surrendered or lost a child to adoption and are now linked through cyber space, as well as through personal hardship. These women communicate through e-mail with each other, helping each other with this journey that has no road maps or directions. The Sunflower group is divided into two separate lists; searching and reunited. Their status is determined by the status of their relationship with the child who was placed for adoption. These women offer one another emotional support as they endure the struggles associated with living as a natural mother - the forgotten member of the Adoption Triad.

On Christmas Eve this year, each of these women will light a candle at 6:00 PM and burn it until midnight, thus having candles lit around the world on Christmas Eve Night. The candle will remember the members who are searching for their child and light the way for the possible reunion. For those who are reunited, it will burn to strengthen the tie that was forged between the biological members of the Triad. And, for those who have been rejected by the fruit of their womb, it will offer hope for a change of heart and a better future.

The NEFM, SMB and CCNMs ask that all members of the community remember those who are living a life with a part of them missing and offer a brief prayer for first mothers everywhere who endure the pain of a difficult decision. It is their hope that in this season of goodwill toward all that they may share in the joy of the season. Please join these exceptional women in lighting up the world on Christmas Eve.

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Friday, December 21, 2007

Confessions of an Identity Thief

I actually wrote this a few days ago. It had started as a comment on Addie’s blog, but then took a life of it’s own. I began to create a blog post, but it freaked me out too badly to post it. So I didn’t for two reasons. First, I was getting a lot of traffic from a site I couldn’t see. Access denied messages piss me off and make me feel unsafe. Gee I wonder why. The second reason was my own reaction to the face I created.

Truth be told, it scared the bejesus out of me. I felt I had created something so horrible, something pornographic, that I was a terrible person for making it. My reaction to the picture was really disturbing, so I posted it at the one place where I feel entirely accepted, or as entirely accepted as I’ll allow myself to feel. And then I got a migraine.

I felt a tremendous relief the next morning. No one ran away shrieking in horror. I wasn’t banned for creating something vile. Angry villagers weren’t surrounding my home with torches and pitchforks. I had not only created, but also shared with other people my arch-nemesis – the Theresa whose life I stole.


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This morning Addie wrote this

I think about this a lot. I have writings on this in some of my draft posts. They never make it to published status. I don’t know if this one will.

I went back and read her post a zillion times over.

OK more like 20, but still.

The ghost me knows just what she’s writing about. I think about the ghost me a lot. I spend a lot of time feeling sorry for her. Someone in my family has to. The only one who knows the ghost me exists hasn’t shown a great deal of compassion.

And I think about another ghost, the ghost of Theresa, the woman whose life I’m living. She scares me, because I’m sure she’d hate me. I’d resent anyone who was living my life. Theresa is the one of the 8 children my adoptive parents wanted but could not have. I took the place of the first-never-born.

My name is Theresa, and I am an identity thief. I stole the life of a wish named Theresa H. I didn’t do it on purpose; it’s a life of crime I was sold into. My accomplices are the Philadelphia Archdiocese, a former high profile lawyer-turned-judge, and the State of Pennsylvania.

I’ve had a lot of privileges, living Theresa’s life. Thing is though, I think I would have had a lot of privileges living my other ghost life too.

Being Theresa, I grew up in Bucks County. If I had lived my ghost life, I would have grown up in Philly. Personally I can’t rate one higher than the other. I had adoptive relatives in Philly. I kinda liked it there. It’s really a wash that way.

Being Theresa, I moved to Chicago in 7th grade. My ghost stayed in the City of Brotherly Love. Plusses and minus both ways again. I’d have to say the biggest plus to being Theresa was the fact that my adoptive parents were council contributors of the Field Museum, so I got to see King Tut for free anytime I wanted to. I also got to go to the front of the line. It used to be an hour wait to get into to see the Boy King. But then again, who’s to say my natural parents weren’t council contributors of the Philadelphia museum? Maybe I would have gotten the same perks there too.

Theresa got a horse but from what the newspaper archives tell me, there was a bit of the equestrian in dear old mom, so I think ghost me would have been a dressage girl too.

I’ve done a lot of fraud in Theresa’s name. I used her birth certificate to get a social security card, a driver’s license, an education, and to get married. I showed Theresa’s birth certificate as proof of my citizenship to get the job I have now. Twenty years from now, I’ll be using Theresa’s identity to collect her social security benefits. I really should be arrested. I can’t count the number of crimes I’ve committed with a falsified birth certificate.

I feel sorry for the Theresa whose life I’m living though. I wish she had had a chance to live. I think she would have liked the life I lived for her, and probably would have appreciated it much more than I had.

I wondered what she would look like.

So I took a picture of my adoptive parents, when they were young and dating, and I morphed them together. It was interesting to me that the morphed face was much more masculine, but I don’t know if it’s just because I was looking for my adoptive dad in it. In any event, I used that face transformer to turn it into a woman, and then make her into an adult. I felt weird doing this, like this was some secret I shouldn’t be looking into. Something hidden and forbidden and obscene almost, creating through web apps the face of the life I've led.




She’d be 8 years older than I am now. I know my adoptive parents wanted to have kids right away, like all of their siblings did. If they did, she’d be a December baby.

Come to think of it, when I start counting, I think today could have been her birthday.

I showed her to my cool husband when he came home from work.

"Do you think she's pretty?" I asked him.

"Who's that, is she related to your dad?" he wanted to know. Aha, so it wasn't just me.

"That's Theresa H.", I told him. He didn't get it. How could he? He's a real kid. I had to explain it to him.

"You're prettier than she is," he said.

I looked at her again.

He's such a liar. She's superior to me in every way. With her faint never-born smile, she's realer than I could ever be.





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Thursday, December 20, 2007

I always liked Lowes better than Home Depot anyway

This is so wonderful! There's a video at the site too - check it out! If you're up for opening minds and hearts, there's a few closed up folks in the comments at this site who could use a little educating. I don't have it in me right now though, maybe later. Now, I'm just thrilled for these families, and I'm sure you will be too.


Man finds birth mom 22 years later at work
Michigan man learns co-worker was woman who gave him up for adoption
By Mike Celizic
TODAYShow.com contributor
updated 10:35 a.m. ET, Thurs., Dec. 20, 2007

As a delivery driver at the Lowe’s in Grand Rapids, Mich., Steve Flaig knew that you could find a lot of things you need in the superstore, but he never dreamed that one of them would be his birth mother.

But that’s where Flaig’s four-year search for his mother ended, not in aisle seven, but in the office, where the co-worker he knew casually in passing as Chris turned out to be the woman who gave him up for adoption after his birth 22 years ago.

“Passing each other, it was just, ‘Hey,’ ” Christine Tallady, 45, told TODAY co-host Meredith Vieira on Thursday. “I didn’t really have a lot of contact with him. As a delivery person, he’d get his deliveries, leave the store, do his deliveries, come back and then pretty much leave. I was based in the store, so I stayed in the office.”

When Flaig turned 18, and with the blessing and encouragement of his adoptive parents, he began searching for his birth mother. He started at D.A. Blodgett for Children, the Grand Rapids agency that had handled his adoption. Tallady had left her records open, listing her name in the hope that the child she gave birth to as a young single woman would contact her someday.

It wasn’t an intense search, but more of an off-and-on thing on the Internet. After more than three years without success, he went back to the agency and found that the reason he couldn’t find his mother was because he was misspelling her last name. He put the proper spelling in a search engine and up popped a Christine Tallady living in Grand Rapids at an address not far from his own home and near the Lowe’s where he worked.

“I thought, wow, that’s really close to here, where I work,” he told NBC News. “I bet I’ve seen her in the store.”

‘You’ve got to be kidding me’
Two months ago, he learned that she didn’t just come in the store, she worked there. But now that he was so close to the person he'd been seeking for so many years, he didn’t know how to approach her.

“It’s a bizarre situation, and I was not 100 percent sure as to what to do about it, how to bring it to her attention and how to break the news to her,” he told Vieira. “There’s always that fear that it could potentially go wrong or something wouldn’t go right. So I had to be 100 percent sure before I went ahead with it.”

Finally, he went back to the adoption agency and asked for advice. An employee there offered to call Tallady and break the news to her for Flaig. She told Tallady only her son’s first name and that he worked in the store with her.

“I just sat down and just started crying,” she said. “I said, ‘You’ve got to be kidding me.’ ”

She started running down the list of Steves who worked in the store, eliminating them by age until she settled on the nice young man who drove a delivery truck. Once she verified his birthday, she knew for certain who he was.

That was on Wednesday, Dec. 12. Flaig called her that afternoon and they agreed to meet for lunch at a nearby restaurant for a proper introduction.

“We met at a neutral place,” Tallady said. “I walked in; I saw him sitting there. He got out of his seat, and we just hugged and hugged and hugged and cried and cried. It was very emotional, very emotional.”

The best part for Tallady was seeing how well her son’s adoptive parents had done in raising him.

“He’s a good person, just a really good person,” she said. “It just makes you proud he turned out this way.”

For Flaig, the meeting filled what had been an empty space in his life. “It’s something that’s just kind of missing in your life,” he said. “It crosses your mind every day, thinking that this person’s out there somewhere, and I would love to meet them someday. It’s worked out wonderfully.”

‘They are just ecstatic ’
His roommate, Joel Brinks, told NBC that the meeting has changed Flaig profoundly.

“He’s infinitely happier,” Brinks said. “He constantly has a smile on his face and seems a lot more excited than he has been in a long time.”

That smile was still on his face as he sat next to his birth mother in the TODAY studio in New York, looking at her frequently and smiling fondly.

Tallady, too, was glowing. She’s married now, with two children, Alexandra, 12, and Brandon, 10. Her husband has known ever since they’ve been married that she had another son who’d been given up for adoption, and had supported her decision to meet with him. When she came home last Friday after having lunch with Flaig, he told her she was radiant.

She sat down with her two children and told them that she had just met their older half brother.

“Tears — tears of joy” is how she described Alex and Brandon’s reactions. “They’re so excited they have a brother. They are just ecstatic — they haven’t met him yet. They’ve seen him on TV, but they haven’t met him.”

Flaig is looking forward to that meeting — yet another incomparable gift at this holiday season. He also can’t wait to introduce Tallady to his adoptive parents.

He has reason to be confident that they’ll become good friends. Not long ago, Flaig’s brother, who is also adopted, reunited with his birth mother and introduced her and her family to the Flaigs, whose family circle is getting bigger by the day.

“They’ve become pretty close with our family,” he told Vieira. “They were just over for dinner last week.”

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Wednesday, December 19, 2007

What my son just yelled out from the living room:


"Mom,

it's a

surrogate-mother-baby-farming episode

on Law & Order!

I am not even joking!"

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Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Google Art



Swiped this addictive and fun site off The Presurfer

Type in a word or two or three and generate a masterpiece.

I used the forbidden term Pennsylvania Birth Certificate for Adoptees. It took me a few tries to get just the right look, but I'm pretty pleased with the results.

It's here: net.art generator

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Monday, December 17, 2007

Such a good idea

This.

Check it out. It's really great.





I tried to do this a long time ago, in the dark old ages when videos and computers did not go hand in hand. My video camera was three times the size of the laptop I have now and weighed about 25 pounds. I had to keep it on a tripod because it would hurt my shoulder after a while. I used to interview my friends, and then watch them on this ancient thing called a VCR, which was a way to steal someone's soul and keep it in this little black box. Also once you were done watching someone's stolen soul, you needed to rewind it back to the beginning if you wanted to watch it again. These were dark times.

In any event, I wanted to do this with my adoptive mom. I would have liked to do it with my dad too but he was on the road most of the time and usually passed out on his recliner when he was home. Now that I'm working the same kind of hours he did, I view my memories of him snoring on the recliner with a much more sympathetic eye than I did before. (Yes, I will admit, I did steal his sleeping soul though, and made a video called Interview with the Snoring Man. I know that's mean but he thought it was funny.)

Anyway my adoptive mom would have none of it. Having her soul stolen wasn't high on her list of priorities. I wish she had agreed to it though, it would be interesting to look at 20 something years later. I wonder if she'd agree to it now? I may test this out.

Anyway, I really love this, and hope you will too.



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Friday, December 14, 2007

I'm done commenting on this one

After this final rant - I refuse to believe that this poor girl was just so sick from the moment they adopted her at, 4-months old, 7 years ago, that a diplomat and his wife, with a host of assistants, could not find the time to get her citizenship. Give me a break. They sure had enough time to throw that party in January 2005 where their real kid son was mentioned but Jade wasn't.

Anyone who is raised by a host of nannies is going to have attachment difficulties. Why adopt a child if you're not going to be the one to raise her?



51 comments and growing over at Michelle Malkin. The article itself is really well done and has some new news posts I hadn't seen yet. I'm sorry to see some of the comments labeling this in terms of liberal vs. conservative though. There's no politics here. Just the saddest little girl in the midst of a 15-minute media spotlight.

Update: Outrage builds over Dutch couple who dumped adopted Korean daughter

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Wednesday, December 12, 2007

Dear Mom




http://www.youtube.com/user/CristyHarris


Edit 12/12 - This YouTuber knows there are lots of different stories out there. If you're near Southern California and interested in participating in her project, drop her a line.

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More on those monsters who dumped their daughter

Why mince words, right?

Links around the blogosphere. As usual if I missed you, it wasn't intentional, it was oversight. Yell at me in comments and I'll add your post. (Edit 12/14 - adding the newer and overlooked posts in now)

After Grog Blog (via this blog I had the true horror of being exposed to Adoption Gone Wrong. Remember parents - you can even get a rebate on your bad adoptee 40 years later! Wow - glad I'm 44.)
Seven Year Ditch

All Children Have Rights
Outcry as Dutch diplomat disposes of adopted 7-year old

Andrew Bolt
No diplomat to his own child

Ethnically Incorrect Daughter
Damaged Goods?

Harlow's Monkey
It's not too late to take action, even after 40 years

Land of the Not-So-Calm
Return Policies
and
Return Policies: A Little More Info, and WHY?

Michelle Malkin
Selfish Beasts of the Day Award

Reading While Black
30-Day Return on Adopted Children

Reading Writing Living
Suffering from "Adoption Disappointment?"

Resist Racism
Seven Years


Second Chances
Returnable

Strollerderby
Couple Who Adopted Girl Wants to Give Her Back

Third Mom
For Shame

Twice the Rice
'Forever families' & adoption permanency

The Voyage
Inexcusable... (get ready to be sick)...


We All Come from 'Seoul'
Couple adopted 4-months old girl while in Korea : 7 years later they left her with the social welfare in Hong Kong

We Four in Egypt
The Dutch family and adoption dissolution
and
Dutch (mis)treat

Writing My Wrongs
I Have No Words


Newsweek has a pretty disturbing article up right now, and in it there is mention that in 2006, 81 adopted children were given the boot by their forever families.

And I don't want to hear any boo-freaking-hoos about how difficult a decision this must have been. Please. Only when you buy a human being can you even remotely consider a return policy.

Oh and what's that you say - there were hundreds of thousands of adoptions so 81 is just a small percentage? Yeah, tell that to the 81 who had 100% of their life turned upside down - after, may I remind you - they already had their entire world destroyed by losing their mother at birth.

A Dutch newspaper has printed a little more about them. You can use BabelFish to get a translation. Finally they've been named.

Raymon and Meta Poeteray - shame on you.

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Open Records in the Big Apple

Claud writes on the exciting goings-on on Monday during the Open Records meeting - take a look -

Musings of the Lame: The Open Records Conclave in NYC

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Monday, December 10, 2007

Teasers Launch Party for Going Home - 12/13/07

If you're free Thursday evening, why not head on over to lovely Cambridge for the teaser launch party to support Going Home?

More details at their blog:

Teasers Launch Party

Come to our party to watch the premiere of our teasers for "Going Home"! It will be held Thursday Dec. 13 from 6-10PM at Phoenix Landing, 512 Massachusetts Avenue, Cambridge, MA.

Come watch two teasers, listen to original music featured in "Going Home" performed live, and talented Emerson students perform their own music.

We will also be selling T-Shirts featuring designs that represent different majors at Emerson at the event for $12/shirt. Check out the designs at the ThirdCat Store!

The event is 19+ with state issued photo ID/passport. Open to EVERYONE!

Suggested Donation of $2 to help with post production costs.

Directions to Phoenix Landing: Central Square T-Stop on Red Line.

Hope to see you there!!

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Sunday, December 09, 2007

The Adoption Show Sunday December 9, 2007 - Bernadette Wright

The Adoption Show Sunday December 9, 2007 - Bernadette Wright

THE ADOPTION SHOW
Voices Ending the Myth

Sunday December 9, 2007
9:00 PM EST
www.theadoptionshow.com


OUSA STUDY
MOTHERS' VOICES:
SURRENDER EXPERIENCES AND LONG-TERM EFFECTS
http://origins-usa.org/Default.aspx?pageId=24349


BERNADETTE WRIGHT
Bernadette Wright is a mother who lost her only child, a son who she named Sebastian, to a grey market baby broker in 1990, when she was 19. She has not seen or known anything about her son since he was taken from the hospital at two days old.

Bernadette is passionate about working to prevent other families from being unnecessarily separated. She is the President of Origins-USA (http://www.origins- usa.org/ ), a national organization devoted to promoting family preservation and advocating for people separated by adoption.

Bernadette holds a PhD. in Public Policy and works professionally at a consulting firm, providing research on how to improve the system for people with disabilities who need supportive services. She lives in Fairfax, Virginia with her partner Don and her cat Veronica.
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Couple give up child adopted 7 years ago

Note: I've been digging adoption news lately as opposed to posting them, because it's faster that way. For some reason this morning I couldn't get this story dugg, so I'm posting it here.


Couple give up child adopted 7 years ago
Diplomat and wife turn out girl, 8
Barclay Crawford
Dec 09, 2007


A high-ranking diplomat and his wife have given up to Hong Kong authorities the daughter they adopted seven years ago in Korea when she was just four months old.

The diplomat and his wife handed the girl over to the Social Welfare Department last year.

The case has prompted appeals to find new parents for the child among the Korean community in Hong Kong, and comes amid international debate about families adopting children from other cultures.

An Irish couple caused a furore when they returned a child to an Indonesian orphanage in 2005, saying the adoption did not work out. Recently, a French charity sparked controversy with plans to take 103 children from Chad in central Africa to France for adoption.

The Korean girl has been in foster care with an expatriate family since being handed over to social workers in Hong Kong. The diplomat and his wife gave her up after having two children of their own and the Social Welfare Department has been working to find her a new permanent home.

The South Korean consulate says she was not naturalised as a citizen of her adoptive parents' country and is not a Hong Kong resident. This leaves her residency status in the city in doubt. The girl is attending school and speaks Cantonese and English, but not Korean.

The diplomat, who has a senior management role at a European consulate in the city, yesterday said the child had been adopted by his family while he was based at his country's embassy in South Korea. The adoption had gone wrong, he said.

The diplomat said the family was trying "hard to deal with it" and had consulted experts. His wife was seeking therapy following the decision to give up the child.

"It's just a very terrible trauma that everyone's experiencing," he said. "I don't have anything to say to the public. It is something we have to live with.

"My Foreign Ministry knows about my situation. I have also been in touch with the Hong Kong government and they have been very helpful to me and so has my own employer."

The diplomat declined to say whether his family was in touch with the child.

"We are doing everything with the Hong Kong government and Social Welfare Department to find a solution," he said. "That's as much as I can tell you. We are trying our best."

A Korean magazine has twice published appeals to Hong Kong-based Koreans to find the girl a home.

"She was adopted by a ... couple in January 2000, who were living in Korea at that time," the magazine said, citing the Social Welfare Department.

"Her adoptive mother, who had been thought to be sterile, has since had her own two children so they gave her up for adoption."

The South Korean consulate confirmed it was aware of the situation and said it had been flooded with offers of help.

Many in the community have expressed anger and bewilderment at the treatment of the girl.

Inn Hae Morgan, who has been in touch with the Social Welfare Department, said the concern centred on the welfare of the child.

"We have been told she is well and happy," she said.

"It's hard to understand what the circumstances would be that a child who has been with a family for so many years would be abandoned."

Social welfare sector legislator Fernando Cheung Chiu-hung said there would be issues with the child's nationality and she might have to return to Korea before she could find a new family.

A spokesman for the Social Welfare Department said it would comment on the case later.

Korean law does not permit adoptive parents to return their children. There is no similar law in Hong Kong.

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Saturday, December 08, 2007

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Wednesday, December 05, 2007

Blah, too busy

I need a new life, or a slave clone to help me manage the life I have now. At least do the litter boxes.

Remember that line I made a while back about secretly wishing that our adult children would be unable to find employment after college and be forced to live with us for financial reasons? Well, be careful what you wish for.

It's wonderful, but the house has grown extremely busy extremely fast. It's not so much the not finding employment bit, but yanno, what you go to school for and what you can get jobs in are mutually exclusive. Also, the northeast is just too freaking expensive apartment wise.

The cats are quite perturbed that not only are there are people sleeping in their beds, the all the bedroom doors are closed because the people sleeping in their beds for some odd reason don't like cat hair. Can you imagine?

I'm trying to keep up reading wise but as you can see,

I'm failing as miserable as I did during that 'I'm going to blog every day for the month of November' nonsense.

So a quick wrap up of links highlighting the magic of adoption



I'm sorry if I missed you, it was totally unintentional, I have bereft and bemused cats that need my attention.



Oh PS, As much as I hate the Christmas season, I am just so

so so so, looking forward, to this

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Sunday, December 02, 2007

Interesting description

Yeah, I know, it's Lifetime, but this caught my eye. It came through my Google alerts. I have to say this is the first time I've seen this phrase mentioned:

A Dad for Christmas '06. Kristopher Turner. A young man takes his newborn out of the hospital to save him from adoption. (NR) (2:00) LIFE: Mon. 9 P.M. (CC)

I haven't seen it so I have no idea how anyone in the story will be portrayed or what the final outcome will be. A google of the book it's based on seems like mom is portrayed as the mythical uncaring, I just wanna get on with my life paaaaahty girl.

But I'll give it a five amended birth certificates seal of approval just for that 'saved from adoption' line.

That's a real nice phrase in my book.

Monday, December 3rd, 9:00 PM EST, Lifetime TV

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