Monday, September 01, 2008

I actually am very pissed

about the whole Cheerios thing.

It’s the belittlement and insignificance of loss that can be so neatly summarized. Take along Cheerios when you remove a child from their country and language and heritage and fly them across the world. Just give ‘em finger foods, and all will be a-OK.

There’s a whole industry that wraps adoption up so neatly, that diminishes loss and grief and shock. And too many people who buy into that industry of invalidation without a second thought.

Here’s my tip:

Based on a true story. In fact, when people go to other countries to meet their adopted children, it is suggested that they surrender their US citizenship and become citizens of that country, never speak English again, never speak to their extended families or friends in the US again, get new names and have their original identities sealed forever to help break the ice.

And shut up and be grateful for it by the way. Maybe they can visit the US again some day in 20 years or so, as long as it doesn't hurt their adoptive children's feelings.

6 complaints from ingrates:

Mia September 2, 2008 at 6:04 AM  

You are absolutely right. It sets up a horribly inaccurate (and thus very dangerous) image of the adoption process. Adoption is always idealized and that's dangerous because it is actually never the ideal.

The Improper Adoptee September 2, 2008 at 5:45 PM  

Don't you know they choose Cheerios to represent the circle of the Adopted childs life, because ending up with the oh so loving and perfect AP's completes the circle of family. LMAO. ;)Running for the cereal barf bowl now....

sume September 3, 2008 at 1:51 PM  

Gross. Every time I see puke-inducing adoption frosting like this, it makes me feel as if we've gotten nowhere.

Glad to see you updating. For some reason, I thought you'd stopped. :S

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