Wednesday, December 31, 2008
Or was it 11 years ago, or 13 years ago? I can't remember, honestly. This old mind of mine, she ain't what she used to be.
The cool husband, at that time the cool boyfriend, had gone to pick him up.
I was a nervous wreck, I wanted him to like me so much. I was compulsively re-washing clean dishes at the sink when he came in. He was bundled under his huge jacket, buried under his oversized backpack behind and whatever the latest game system of the time was up front.
He just stared at me for a few moments after I said hello.
"My dad said you're good at Mortal Kombat," he said.
"I'm the best," I told him. I was.
He just stared at me some more.
"Do you want to play me?" he asked.
I narrowed my eyes at him.
"Prepare for annihilation," I told him. He laughed and went to hook up the game system.
He kicked my ass. Royally.
I remember watching him go down the hallway, still buried under all his gear, thinking how cute he looked in his little army fatigues.
I was thinking about that this morning, as I watched him walk out the door in his army fatigues, buried under all his gear.
And still carrying the latest game system.
Now, what on earth this young man thinks he's going to do with a PS3 in the Middle East, I have no clue, but I'm not arguing with him.
I won't be seeing him again for a very, very, very long time.
Tuesday, December 30, 2008
No comment, other than to say this is the 'loswest' of the lows
China’s Loss Could be Sweden’s Gain
Leif R Jansson / SCANPIX
Adopting a Chinese baby is the dream of many Swedes
The Swedish Society for International Child Welfare says that many Swedes are hoping that an economic crisis in China will make it easier to adopt Chinese babies.
Last year 800 children from outside the Nordic region were adopted into Sweden - but this is the loswest figure in 38 years and the figure for 2008 is expected to be even lower.
Part of the reason is that adoptions from China, which have dominated the statistics in the last ten years, have decreased due to economic growth in China and the rest of Asia.
Now Swedish couples and singles eager to adopt are calling the Swedish Society for International Child Welfare, also known as Adoptioncentrum and asking whether bad times will mean more available babies.
But for Swedes who lose their jobs, their local authority may well revoke their adoption permit.
Monday, December 29, 2008
Sunday, December 28, 2008
Elizabeth Norcross Miller is one of 136 adult adoptees who have preregistered with the Maine Office of Data, Research and Vital Statistics for non-certified copies of those certificates. When the office opens Friday, anyone who has preregistered will be able to pick up their documents."I'm going to be the first in line..."
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Saturday, December 27, 2008
About.com has released the 2008 Top Adoption News story poll.
- The controversy of the hit movie, Juno
- Anna Mae He
- USA and the Hague
- Texas polygamist raid
- Nebraska's safe haven law
- Gay adoption an issue for voters
- Baby Talon
You can still review 2007's results here
Thursday, December 25, 2008
Oh, I've been looking for so long
Items 860-092 and 860-008
The stuff of dreams
But I don't care, damnit.
The must-have Christmas gifts for the finest 1960's adoptees
The FAO Schwartz Horse and Sulky
The FAO Schwartz Ice Cream Fountain
All this time, right next to each other on page 8.
Wednesday, December 24, 2008
-Born July 3, 1975 in Niskayuna, NY
-Registered with the New York Adoption Reunion Registry a while back....
-And have since moved?
Your mother is looking for you.
Even though you made it clearly obvious that you'd like to be found, the state can not release your name to her, nor it appears will they do the minimal of searching to find your new address.
I bet you registered, and then spent the next few weeks with your eye on the mailbox and the phone, waiting to hear back. And then you never did. I know how it feels to find out no one is looking for you. When that would happen to me, I'd try and tell myself my mother probably didn't know about the registry. Maybe she didn't have internet access. Maybe someday I'd hear back.
But still, deep inside, it really hurts.
And you know, then I'd go on. For years I'd set aside my search and do nothing. Maybe on my birthday make a quick post, but then just leave it. Time went on, I moved, and I never updated my contact information at ISRR or the state registry. Just... life gets in the way. We're so busy, and it's just so humiliating knowing that some state worker can know who we are, but we can't.
Anyway, this isn't about me, it's about you. Your mother's name is Catherine , and getting to know you would make her Christmas complete. Please contact email@example.com, and even more important please come on over to www.NYAdoptees.com. Anyone searching in New York, please come on over. There's good people there; they'll get you home.
Finally, in her article Catherine asks:
I urge all who read this to share this story with all those who are adoptees.
I do too.
Mom has a very special grown-up wish for Christmas
By CATHERINE TERRY, Special to the Times Union
First published: Tuesday, December 23, 2008
She was only 4 days old, innocent and very unaware of how drastically her life would be changed forever. I named her Catherine Elizabeth, but I feel sure that was also changed too.
At the adoption proceedings, I brought a letter I had composed to Catherine explaining why — at the age of 15 and jobless — I was unable to care for her.
Her 17-year-old father and I loved her very much and did not want things to be this way, but had no other options. I gave the letter to the judge to give to the adoptive parents for Catherine when they felt it was appropriate.
That was 33 1/2 years ago and the void in my heart has ceased to be filled, yet life goes on. Two years after giving her up, I moved with my family to Florida, graduated high school, married, had two more daughters.
Yet still, I longed to search for Catherine. My husband, who was not the birth father, didn't want me to contact Catherine and I honored his wishes. Another deep wound.
Earlier this year, I began actively searching for my daughter after the end of my 26-year marriage. I found that Catherine had been looking for me and registered with the New York state Department of Health adoptees registry, but she has not kept her contact information updated. They can't tell me anything about her without her final consent.
So, my Christmas wish is that she is reading this right now and will update her contact information tomorrow.
I urge all who read this to share this story with all those who are adoptees.
I hope and pray to give you the rest of the story soon.
Catherine Terry lives in Luthersville, Ga.
Tuesday, December 23, 2008
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Co-founder, OBC for ME
Co-founder, OBC for ME
New Law Affects Maine
Maine has restored a basic human right to all Maine-born adult adoptees – the right to know their identity at birth! Just as New Hampshire, Alabama and Oregon legislatures have done in the past 12 years, the 123rd
Excitement is building as over 130 Maine-born adoptees from around Maine, plus New Hampshire, , Florida, California and other states have already submitted their info to the . Many, including those living out-of-state, are coming to Augusta to request their Original on January 2, 2009.
Maine LD 1084/Public Law 409 – An Act to Allow Adult Adoptees Access to their Original Birth Certificates (OBC) - goes into effect January 1, 2009. Any Maine-born adult adoptee wishing to receive an uncertified copy of their original birth certificate in-person on January 2, 2009 at the in Augusta, must contact Lorraine Wilson immediately at the following address, email, or phone and provide her with the information (below) she will need to locate their records:
Office of Data, Research and Vital Statistics
Division of Public Health Systems
Center for Disease Control and Prevention
Maine Department of Health and Human Services 244 Water Street 11 State House Station Augusta, ME 04333-0011
Lorraine.Wilson@ maine.gov made the decision in June 2007, via LD 1084, to correct an injustice the Maine Legislature enacted in 1953 when they declared that the original birth and adoption records of adoptees were to be sealed upon adoption of any child after August 8th of that year and leaving adoptees access to their original identity only at the discretion of the courts and only if adoptees knew this fact, which is buried in the cumbersome adoption laws.
The adoptee information needed:
- Name after adoption, Date of birth, Town of birth (if known)
- The relationship of the requestor to the adoptee (i.e., same person, son, daughter, etc.)
- Contact information of the requestor
In order to receive a copy of his/her original birth certificate on January 2, 2009, an adoptee will still need to download the official http://www.maine. gov/dhhs/ bohodr/documents /Application% 20for%20Adult% 20Adoptee. pdf. The adoptee must also bring (or mail if not coming in-person) the filled out and notarized form, a certified copy of their current birth certificate, and a $10 check made out to: Treasurer - State of Maine.
Parents of origin (also called birth parents) may also NOW submit information, confidentially, to Lorraine Wilson:
from this website:
- Contact Preference Form, which is downloadable from this website: http://www.maine. gov/dhhs/ bohodr/documents /Contact% 20Preference% 20form.pdf.
- Birth Parent Updated Medical History Form, which is downloadable from this website: http://www.maine. gov/dhhs/ bohodr/documents /Medical% 20History. pdf.
Everyone impacted by this law should read the rules compiled by the Office of Data, Research and Vital Statistics (Maine Center for Disease Control, DHHS), downloadable at this website: http://www.maine. gov/dhhs/ boh/_rules_ documents/ Adult%20Adoptees %20Access% 20to%20Original% 20Birth%20Certif icate.pdf.
REASONS FOR SUBMITTING THIS INFO EARLY: If an adoptee applies for the first time on January 2, 2009, it is very likely they will not get the uncertified copy of their original birth certificate that day. If birth parents have filled out their forms, adoptees will have updated medical info and possibly a current contact name and address that will expedite searching if that is what an adoptee chooses to do.
ISSUES TO BE AWARE OF:
- Adoptees who obtain their OBC before a birth parent has submitted their forms will be able to request that DHHS send them the birth parent contact preference and medical history forms.
- In about 80-90% of the cases, the birth fathers name will not be on the birth certificate (DNA testing has not been available until relatively recently and birth fathers were not always required to be part of the surrendering process as they are now), unless the couple was married.
- Medical, genealogical and cultural histories are important to many individuals, yet for others, just having the document (“the deed to my person,” as adoptee Robert Hafetz says) will be sufficient at this time.
- To help people impacted by this law to work through the emotional roller coaster that this information may stimulate, OBC for ME has two adoption triad support group formats: ONLINE at this website - http://health. groups.yahoo. com/group/ obcformesupport/ which requires a prior free Yahoo registration, and IN-PERSON with the next meeting on January 17, 2009, at Norway Savings Bank Community Room, Route 1 South, Falmouth, ME, 10 AM - Noon. There are also support groups in just about every state, province and country on this continent as well as in most overseas countries.
A private reception for adoptees and their families will be held at the Augusta EconoLodge at 5 PM on January 2, 2009. For more information contact Bobbi Beavers, rbbeavers@comcast. net.
Saturday, December 20, 2008
But it's got a lot of heart.
Take a visit, and add as a friend?
Friday, December 19, 2008
I don’t know why. I honestly don’t know what I’ve ever done to her, to have her treat me this badly. Seriously friends, she is quite abusive. I am just about at my wit’s end with her online behavior.
First, in 2007, she gave me a Thinking Blogger Award. I am still deeply wounded by the trauma this caused me, people pleasing oh no I hope I don’t hurt anyone’s feelings by excluding them adoptee that I am. After all this time, I still wake up in a cold sweat, sitting up abruptly, as a stab of fear sets into my heart wondering --- who? who? who did I hurt, by not nominating them as a Thinking Blogger?
The trauma is horrible. I was just beginning to make slow progress, could catch a glimpse of a Thinking Blogger award on someone’s site without making a beeline under my desk, shaking, trembling –
Check this shit out:
4. Ungrateful Little Bastard by Theresa. It’s not just because Theresa does things like this and this — and then I bust out into tears — although those don’t hurt. It’s also because she keeps on top of adoption’s top stories and writes about them in such a succinct fashion that I’m always learning from her. OK, and she also can be funny as hell. She’s just the best; what can I say?
She thinks she can do it to me again. She thinks she can cause me more stress, more aggravation, more fear, more need to eat bag upon bag of potato chips in an attempt to self-medicate with a carbohydrate rush to the brain.
Well Mz Judy, Mz Just Enjoy Torture --- not this time. I have a secret weapon I’m pulling out. A certain Philly Phriday that I had planned to publish sometime in the early Spring, but that now I’ll reveal, now that you’ve forced my hand.
So without further ado, this week’s Philly Phriday:
Philly Phridays #18: Uber Amazing Philadelphia Blogs You Want to Read
I’m taking a break from the usual adoptee’s-eye-view of Philly tourism this week to bring you a few blogs you want to add to your reader. There are seriously hundreds of Philadelphia bloggers that are hysterical, informative, moving, fantastic, you name it, but these are some of my absolute favorites. Subscribing now will give you a daily glimpse into the awesome city we’re visiting for the Adoptee Rights Demonstration in July and the even more awesome minds that live there.
As always, in alphabetical order because I’m nothing if not obsessive, and blatantly quoting their “About” blurbs, because I’m nothing if not lazy:
Philadelphia Metblogs: Metroblogging started off as a more locally focused alternative news source in Los Angeles and has turned into the largest and fastest growing network of city-specific blogs on the Web. We got sick of reading local news that was syndicated from the other side of the country, or was just repurposed national chit chat that had nothing to do with our city. We created our first blog as a throw back to the days when a local news paper focused on local issues, and you could walk down to the corner coffee shop and chat up the reporters whose column you read earlier that day. This idea didn’t stay in one city for long and before we knew it there were Metblogs in Chicago, Portland, Karachi, and Vienna. Today there are over 50 Metblogs in countries all over the world. Local politics, event reviews, lunch recommendations and ways to avoid that big traffic jam downtown. If it’s happening in our cities, we’re on it.
Philadelphia Will Do: Philadelphia Will Do is a blog about Philadelphia and the wacky and wonderful characters who inhabit our 135-square mile city. Your guide to the funniest city on earth is Daniel Hall McQuade, a 25-year-old who has never spent more than a week outside the city borders since his birth in Fox Chase.
Philebrity: Philebrity is published several times daily during the work week, and sporadically, drunkenly on the weekends. It is a weblog that acts as a media filter and gossip/tipsheet for discerning livers of life in the Philadelphia area, but it is certainly also of interest to others.
It is our aim here to offer our readers an easy guide to navigating this city’s often murky waters. Politicians are corrupt, but funny; artists need love, but not too much; the city’s media are a curious mix of bag ladies and spoon men. Shit is weird. Philebrity wants to help you.
Philly Future: Learn about and share the diversity, history, sites, sounds, joys, concerns, and news of the Philadelphia region. Philly Future is a compendium of the best online writers, narrators, blogs, and commentators in the greater Philadelphia region. Our goal is to empower people to learn of and communicate the diversity, history, sites, sounds, joys, concerns, and news of the Philadelphia region. It's what you consider to be important and in need of being heard. It's the news YOU write, for the city and the world.
Phillyist: Phillyist is a website about Philadelphia and everything that happens in it. That means news and events, restaurants and bars, happenings and goings-on.
There are more, way, way more honestly, but these are some of my favorites.
That’s all for this week’s roundup on the wonder that is Philadelphia. C’mon back next Friday and we’ll return to touristy spots you’ll want to see next July when you head on over to the Adoptee Right’s Demonstration.
Consider yourself bested, Judy. I am impervious to you and your award-giving ways.
PS Thank you!
Wednesday, December 17, 2008
108! 108! 108 adoptees signed up so far to get their original birth certificates in Maine.
Hark the herald angels and all that. 108.
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
To OurAdopt - immediately.
Guest blogger du jour is none other than Addie
Melanie Recoy was taken into the witness protection program at the age of two weeks after giving key testimony in the RICO trial of a prominent organized crime leader. Adopted by a mid-western couple unaware of her background, she has evaded those seeking to collect on the million dollar contract on her life.
Go, go, go, get out of here, go now!
Monday, December 15, 2008
The National Conference of State Legislatures is the largest group of its kind, the national organization of STATE LAWMAKERS, the people who DECIDE whether you may access your original birth certificates… OR NOT.
We propose a gathering of adoptees and all supporters of the rights of adoptees to unrestricted access to their own records of birth, representing all fifty states, a one-day rally that will be an opportunity for adoptees to demonstrate their commitment to adoptee rights and to meet their state delegation.
Please join us!
Saturday, December 13, 2008
The person I think the most about, oddly enough, isn't my mother, but the woman in the chapel.
Not so much her really, more her reaction.
I made a complete stranger burst into tears with just one line:
I find it amazing, really, how adoption magically washes away the abject misery of never once in your life seeing the face of your own mother.
If I had said I was adopted from the start, she would have never reacted like that.
If I had said I was adopted after I made her cry, I believe her tears would have dried up immediately.
I believe she may have even felt angry that I made her cry over such a trifling thing. Adopted! Why, that means you were very, very, very much wanted!
What I can't believe, however, is how difficult it is for people to understand this.
The reaction of that real kid in the chapel is fascinating and validating to me. Here was a grown woman in her sixties, a complete stranger, immediately transformed into a sobbing child at four little words: "I never knew her." This, I believe sometimes, is the real reason the denial in others to adoption runs so deep.
What could be more horrifying than being separated from your mother as a child? What real kid wouldn't fear that?
“This was my family’s church. I came here from New York. I wanted to see it. Seeing it makes my loss that much more real. I never knew my family”
“Oh sure, sure, oh yeah sure, oh you never knew your family”
“I just wanted to say a prayer for my mother. I didn’t want to cry like this”
“Oh sure, sure, of course, you miss her, you only have one mother.”
“You miss her so much”
“I bet she was your best friend”
“I never knew her, but yeah, she was in my mind. I always loved her”
“You never knew your mommy”, and she started to cry
"Mommy," she said.
A grown woman.
I love that woman, whoever she is. And I'm sorry I made her cry. No adult should ever tap into that deep fear of a child separated from their mother. There's just too much grief in that to bear.
Friday, December 12, 2008
Oh the hell with it. Just watch the video. Video is semi-safe for work but definitely not mind safe.
Like so many of us old school adoptees, I was marketed to be the standard issue of the 'nursing student mother / medical student father' combo that was so attractively presented to circa 1960's prospective adoptive parents. I used to think of my own imaginary medical student father studying gross abnormalities with great interest. Feeling like a gross abnormality myself, I felt quite comfortable visiting.
There really is no hope for me.
But I have good company! There are 21 reviews over at TripAdvisor, and 11 reviews at CitySearch, the majority favorably rated by fans of the bizarre like yours truly.
That's all for field trip suggestions when visiting Philadelphia next year for the Adoptee Rights Demonstration.
I promise -- nothing too gross for next week's Philly Phriday.
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Wednesday, December 10, 2008
Adoption is not about unwanted babies, it’s about unwanted mothers. We know this and now we have an exciting opportunity to tell others.
Award winning filmmaker Sara Aderhold has graciously donated her time to produce an Origins-USA promotional video featuring mothers telling their stories of surrender, loss, and reunion. Presenting these experiences is the most effective way to change societal views about adoption and birth. Messages of the video include:
- The power of the bond between infants and their mothers.
- Adoption should be a last resort.
- Options to adoption that preserve natural families.
- Adoption does not guarantee a better life, just a different one.
- The right of mothers to know their children.
- The negative impact of adoption on mothers and their children.
- The extensive and expensive marketing by adoption industry to coerce mothers into surrendering their babies.
- Open adoption is not a solution.
Origins-USA cannot complete and distribute this very important video project without your help. Although Sara is generously donating her time and talent, there are additional costs for transcribing the interviews and duplicating the final DVD.
For as little as $20 per member, Origins-USA can cover these costs. The names of those who donate $100 or more will be listed on the film credits.
Make your tax-deductible donation through the Origins-USA website, http://www.Origins-USA.org/. Just click on the “donate” button. Or mail your donation to Origins-USA Treasurer Kathy Aderhold, 2961 S. Kearney, Denver, CO 80222 and mark it “video”.
You can also help by donating some of your time to do some of the transcribing from video, as Origins-USA member Kay Johnson has generously done.
And, as you do your holiday shopping online, please be sure to use Origins-USA's CafePress, iGive and Amazon links.
Sara Aderhold - Producer & Director / Writer / Editor
Sara has been producing and editing award winning programs for six years. She was honored with a Heartland Emmy in 2004 for her documentary work and nominated for a National Emmy for co-editing a special for HBO. You can see her work on PBS, HBO, Comedy Central, MTV, Disney, and in educational settings around the nation. She is dedicated to storytelling and thrives on shedding light on otherwise unnoticed parts of the world. Sara has firsthand experience with adoption loss. Her mother is Origins-USA Board member Kathy Aderhold. Kathy and Sara have reunited with Sara’s half sister.
Tuesday, December 09, 2008
Monday, December 08, 2008
Please take a moment to rate and favorite at Youtube, if you're so inclined
A new website is on the horizon...
Announcing Indiana Open:
Indiana Open is a grassroots organization that is comprised of adoptees, first families and adoptive families. We are seeking to give unfettered access for all adult adoptees and their families to the original birth certificate. We are currently working with Senator Patricia Miller in getting a bill together to gain equal access to the original birth certificate.
The site is under construction so check back frequently
Also new on YouTube, there was a rally last month in Trenton for New Jersey's bill. Check it out below and... hey! Wait a minute! Who's that handsome gentleman at 0:44 and 1:16 and 1:51? I could swear I've seen that face before...
Saturday, December 06, 2008
As of the new year, Maine becomes one of only eight states in the nation to allow adoptees open access to their birth records. Jennifer Rooks is joined in the studio by State Senator Paula Benoit and retired psychotherapist Martha Hulbert to discuss this new law.
Please watch and share.
Meetup groups are a great way to get support offline, and network with other like-minded adoptees.
Friday, December 05, 2008
I feel very guilty about slacking off on Philly Phriday last week, with the holiday and all. So when thinking guilt – what’s better than to write about church!
Christ Church, founded in 1695, was the Sunday morning hangout of Ben Franklin, Betsy Ross, George Washington and other notable figures. The building that stands now was built in 1744. I remember visiting it on several school field trips, and always found it dead-ass boring. Growing up Catholic, the plain white walls and lack of statues, incense and (my own personal favorite) gory Stations of the Cross plaques along the walls baffled me. How could anyone possibly go to church here every Sunday?
Associated with the church are the famous Burial Grounds located two blocks away, which offer guided tours on the hour between 10AM and 3PM. Guided tours are offered at the Church as well, and they provide special lectures on history and genealogy throughout the year.
Speaking of genealogy, the Church has fantastic genealogical archives including parish records and correspondence.
Just a short walk away is National Mechanics Bar & Restaurant, who want you to know right off the bat when you visit their website that their menu is god-damned tasty. Not only that, but when you check out their bar menu, they let you know they’ve damn near achieved Utopia.
So prayers for restoring access, famous dead people, damn good food and damn better drinks, this is a definite must see next July when you come on down to the Adoptee Rights Demonstration.
Be back next week for one of the creepiest museums you’ll ever visit. Have a good weekend!
Was this adoption literature from one specific agency?
A healthy newborn is $$$$$$. I hear the phrase 'adoption literature', and sadly Stephanie Bennett's story comes to mind. As well as the Stephanie's we haven't heard about.
The comments over at the post are 5 pages and growing. Other women have voiced their own experiences with purchasing Plan B at other pharmacies:
I had the same problem with a Walgreen's in St. Louis. Not only did THREE pharmacy employees claim not to know what I was talking about, one of those three actually yelled to someone in the store that "this girl needs the morning after pill!" and they made a big deal out of photocopying my license.
I got a username just to comment on this story. I had a very similar experience at Walgreens. I waited in line for awhile, and the guy behind the counter refused to tell me if they sold Plan B and loudly told me that if I didn't have a ring on my finger, I shouldn't have engaged in premarital sex. When I started to leave, he yelled "WE DON'T CARRY PLAN B" loudly after me. I was furious, and quite honestly, in tears. It made me never want to shop in a Walgreen's again.
Further down in the post, a comment was left that Feministing.com readers did some complaining to Walgreens Corporate, who stated they researched the allegations and discovered them false.
Honestly, if you don't hear something with your own ears, it's hard to know where the truth is.
Would a consumerist.com reader make up a Plan B story for a few moments of internet notoriety? Could be.
Would a pharmacist lie when confronted by upper management in order to save his job? Could be that as well.
Unless the transaction was videotaped there's no way of knowing for sure.
People will do crazy things in order to get a healthy, fresh off the placenta newborn. Certain agencies are not above contracting out to 'finders', especially those with access to young women. Finally, there are those so die-hard in the anti-abortion arena who view even birth control to be an affront, and who simply cannot understand the difference between adoption and abortion. Lone rangers standing outside reproductive health facilities with signs urging adoption are not unheard of.
If I read any followup, I'll update this post with more information.
Thursday, December 04, 2008
Walgreens Jerks You Around When You Try To Buy Plan B
consumerist.com — Young couple needs emergency contraception at a Mississippi Walgreens. What they get instead is a waiting period, adoption literature and a conversation with the manager.
“You only got her because she was abandoned. And she knows that, at a younger age than you could ever imagine….”
Adopted - The Movie went on sale today.
Although I grimaced at the price tag, I purchased a copy and hope that initial sales of this film are positive. This film has been a long time in the making, and I’ve been keeping an eye out since last spring.
I’ve read some criticisms of this film, mostly directed at the trailer. While on first glance I can understand; I think there’s much more here than meets the eye. I could be wrong (I often am!), but to me the sequence of the trailer feels a lot like adoption. It appears all glee at the onset, but not so many squeals of happiness once you look past the packaging. In addition to the discussion on adoption, I’m also very interested in the observations on racism and the objectification of Asian women in American culture that this film explores.
If you’ve never seen their YouTube page, they’ve got a series of film clips posted there.
I had thought I’d see this when it hit the festival circuit, preferable in the company of fellow adoptees. But maybe it’s better I view it at home alone. That way I won’t be reacting off the reactions of others; it will be more authentic that way. I’m going to be very interested in reading the views of other adoptees on this film. That last line from the trailer; it just haunts me.
Monday, December 01, 2008
Heh, yeah, tell me about it.
Nothing brings out the worst in people more than inheritance – unless one of those up to inherit is a bastard. Even in cases where the adoptive parents have specifically made provisions for an adoptee, I’ve heard of money hungry aunts, uncles or real kid siblings singing a different tune entirely once it’s time to divvy up the proceeds. Sometimes it’s nothing so large as a house or share of a retirement fund. It could be an emotionally significant piece of ephemera – a rosary, a china set, a ring. Things people feel best to “keep in the family” , the real one mind you, not the forever one.
It doesn’t matter if it’s an estate in the Cook Islands or an old prayer medal. These ugly reminders of difference are painful to read.
Lawsuit in the Cook Islands over adoption and inheritance. The question before the Court of Appeal was whether a legally adopted child has the same rights of succession to lands from their adoptive parents as the natural children. In other words, does the legally adopted child qualify as a ‘direct descendant’ ?
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This reminded me of a related older post by Wraith - Somewhere to Belong.