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This one made me cry. I don't watch these talent shows so I didn't see this when it aired. Holly Stone was a singer who brought her daughter to the auditions for support. Holly had given up her daughter for adoption and recently found her using MySpace. The show did a brief interview with Holly before the performance, and a small snip with her daughter afterward.
After bringing her fraudulent adoption case to the attention of Michelle Obama earlier this month, Ibbaanika Bond speaks with John McCain.
How does he respond?
Watch it and puke.
To be fair, he can't comment on a case he knows nothing about..... but I've never been much for fair. A better answer would have been, dunno, how about, "I can't comment on a case I haven't heard about, but what you're telling me sounds horrible" ? Much better than the adoption is beautiful let's save those unborn babies line.
Ibbaanika doesn't let him get away with that though. Even though he ignored the basics of her question - corruption in adoption - she still gets her story out there. Watch her and cheer. At least I did:
You need to learn to read. The idiot burglarized his own home. Why the rant about the police? His father called the police. The kid is a loser. The father is probably secretly happy the little thug has been deported and saved the father untold future grief. As inteconlaw discusses above, the law was followed correctly. Under the applicable law, permanent residents that become felons are deportable. The is no reason for sympathy for someone who has shown no responsibility. This is an adult paying the price for their own poor choices.
Typical whining criminal. They will steal from anyone, including their own family. Then when they get caught. It was someone elses fault. It's an out of control government I tell ya...
Stamp this guy return to sender.
It's gone now... let me tell you something Jesse; you did not appreciate the opportunity that was given to you at such an early age, how many people would die to have been in your shoes with the opportunity of becoming a U.S. Citizen. You screwed up and as "inteconlaw" points it out the law was followed as it was written. You made your own bad choices now you are the one that will pay as the old saying goes, "for each action there is a reaction". Mi Amigo, you brought it upon yourself, stealing from the hand that fed you... No words can describe you...
The bright side is that now you will learn a new language, "mucha suerte compadre".
From those who were there and those who helped make it happen
At AdopteeRights.net ---
Adoption officials said Wednesday that DNA tests indicate a Guatemalan baby reported stolen from her mother was being adopted by a U.S. couple, the first strong sign that the Central American nation's troubled adoption system relied in part on abducted children.
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Speechless here....
New Law allows New Yorkers living and dead to be recognized as adoptive parents
ALBANY - Under legislation signed into law by Governor David Paterson, adopted children will be able to claim two parents of record, even if one parent dies before the adoption is final.
The bill was sponsored by Senator Velmanette Montgomery (D-Brooklyn) and Assemblywoman Annette Robinson (D-Brooklyn).
In discussing the need for this law, Montgomery noted that there is precedent for allowing a deceased parent to be recorded on the birth certificate of an adopted child. This authorization, however, is only made possible by enacting laws on a case-by-case basis.
“Our bill eliminates the need to address these cases individually by ensuring that all adoptive children can have two parents of record,” said Senator Montgomery, who is the Ranking Democratic Member of the Senate Committee on Social Services, Children and Families.
Currently, only the adoptive parent who is living at the time the adoption is complete, is recorded on the birth certificate ate. In addition, if one of the parents dies before the adoption is approved, the proceeding is halted and the surviving parent must reapply for the adoption.
The law takes effect immediately and applies to future adoptive parents who pass away.
When an adoptee is deported or threatened with deportation, it's only a matter of time until some rah-rah USA#1 nutter posts a comment like this:
So tired of these attempts to pull on our heart strings. Our prisons are full, our taxes are maxed out dealing with illegal aliens in the United States. In El Salvador, the country is putting its civil war behind them and are trying to pull themselves out of the third world. He's got a bright future there being an English speaking tourism guide or shop owner. Check back in five years for the success story.
Buena Suerte!!
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I got this last month:
Hello--I am not an adoptee or an adoptive parent. And I don't have relatives or friends who are adopted. And I had never considered adopting (I am now pregnant with our first child). It has never been in my radar. I really don't remember how I found your blog - I think the blog's attractive title had something to do with it. Anyway, I found it and I have read most of it. I wanted to thank you for putting it out there the things that you don't hear about adoption. I really had no idea, absolutely no idea. I'm both happy and sad. Happy that I know about his now. That I am aware of this. I hate not knowing things. But sad because I can only begin to imagine how sad can be to know that there is another mother, that there is another world, family, relatives where you were conceived and born and that is not the place/context where you are now and where you were raised. It is difficult for me to totally conceptualize this, to really understand, to fully grasp your feelings. But once in a while when I read your posts, I think I understand and I can feel like you. But I am not sure, and I will never know.One of these moments was today when I read the post for May 28 and, of course, I cried. I think it is one of your most beautiful posts. It just screams LOVE and, at the same time, it is so you with all your frustration and anger about your adoption. I will always be impressed by your force, your insides, your passion. I am not a native English speaker and I can't find the words and I really don't know what attracts me to you and your writings but I just wanted to let you know that I am grateful that people like you tell others about other realities, other visions, other perspectives, and that I can read you.
From WeTV. The Locator airs September 2008.
There was also a news article this morning:
news-press.com — Almost two decades ago, the Fort Myers father of seven set out on a quest to help his mother, Katie Dunn, find her birth mother. That experience gave him such satisfaction that he continued to help people make connections. In the past 18 years, Dunn and his team have assisted thousands of people worldwide in finding lost or estranged family members
Link to the show: http://www.wetv.com/the-locator/
Way too busy to blog, but this hit my inbox and I wanted to share it....
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Provisional edition
Preventing the first form of violence against children: abandonment at birth
Resolution 1624 (2008)1
1. The Parliamentary Assembly is aware that the abandonment of children, particularly newborn babies, has always existed and always will. There will always be mothers in distress who feel they have good reasons to abandon their child at birth (denial of pregnancy, pregnancy outside marriage or at an early age, poverty, HIV/AIDS, etc). In the past, certain east European states also had policies which “institutionalised” the abandonment of babies or which encouraged parents experiencing difficulties to hand their babies over to the state; traces of these policies can be found in the attitudes of the public and maternity hospital staff.
2. Nevertheless, the Assembly is concerned since today, unfortunately, we are far from seeing an end to the abandonment of infants. Due to financial difficulties, poverty, HIV/AIDS, a high rate of abandonment of newborn babies persists in certain states of central and eastern Europe, and this is also coming once again to light in west European states, even though clearly not to a comparable extent.
3. It notes, moreover, that data on the subject are rare; in order to respond with relevant measures, we need to quantify the problem more accurately and put figures on it, particularly in terms of a breakdown by sex of the babies abandoned. We also need to have a clearer picture of and to identify, with any certainty, the typical profile of the mother who abandons her child. In western Europe, most cases of abandonment would appear to involve very young women lacking independence (either from abroad, illegal immigrants, or prostitutes).
4. The Assembly notes that adoption has become a market and that the shortage of adoptable babies in the west makes matters worse. Adoption is closely tied up with abandonment, just as it is with child trafficking. Non-governmental organisations often complain that mothers in distress are not sufficiently well informed about the options open to them and that their vulnerability is exploited to persuade them in effect to abandon their newborn children.
5 The abandonment of children at birth is a complex issue, which involves rights other than those of the mother, such as those of the child and the father. It is impossible nowadays to overlook the rights of children, particularly the right of children to live in a family and to know their origins; it is just as difficult to ignore the rights of fathers.
6. The Assembly notes that in Europe and throughout the world, we are currently witnessing the controversial reintroduction of the foundling wheel system used in Europe in the Middle Ages. In many cases, the abandonment of children is considered a crime, and this system is seen by some as inciting crime and taking responsibility away from mothers. Advocates of the system argue that bringing it into general use will reduce the number of abortions, prevent infanticide, ill-treatment and the abandonment of babies in public places and make sure that the children are adopted.
7. For the Assembly, the abandonment of newborn babies clearly raises the question of access for women and men - particularly migrant women and men - to sexual rights and reproductive health services. Even where voluntary termination of pregnancy is permitted, it is subject to countless administrative formalities all of which constitute obstacles to many women in distress.
8. The Assembly re-asserts its position in favour of the de-institutionalisation of abandoned infants and of priority being given to the provision of alternative and family-based care for these children. It also reiterates that national adoption should take precedence over international adoption.
9. The Assembly invites the member states to:
9.1. centre their family policy on one inviolable and pre-eminent principle, namely respect for the rights of children, in particular the right of children to live with their families and find out about their origins, which is a fundamental human right and crucial for their development;
9.2. provide support for pregnant women and young mothers and fathers through measures including medico-social monitoring of pregnancies, protection against the HIV/AIDS virus and measures to prevent mother-to-child transmission, assistance at childbirth, non-separation of the child from the mother after delivery and postnatal medical and social support for mother and father as well as for the child;
9.3. take due account of the financial pressures that the birth of a child creates to families or single mothers;
9.4. recognise a woman's full right to freely choose pregnancy, which means legal and easier access to sexual rights and reproductive health services;
9.5. and to pay particular attention to especially vulnerable groups of young girls and women, such as migrant women, women with HIV/AIDS and women from minority groups.
10. Member states are also invited to frame a proactive policy to prevent the abandonment of newborn babies which:
10.1. prohibits all incitement or pressure brought to bear on mothers from medical and paramedical staff or government authorities to abandon their children;
10.2. prevents “dumping”, which endangers the life of the newborn baby, by appropriate measures such as accessible reception facilities;
10.3. prevents early and unwanted pregnancies through information and sex education for girls and boys, particularly at school;
10.4. provides mothers, especially mothers belonging to vulnerable groups and fathers, with better information about all the assistance available to them, particularly financial support to help them cope with the added expense that a child represents;
10.5. helps with the setting up and expansion of care and temporary accommodation centres for mothers and their children.
11. Council of Europe member states should urge mothers to give their identity, even though at the same time, protected forms of childbirth should be introduced offering some confidentiality for the mother. Children must not be deprived of the right to find out about their origins and should be allowed to do so even before they reach the age of majority.
12. In order to combat the trafficking in newborn infants, the Assembly recommends that the registration of all children at birth be an obligation totally free of charge for parents; provision could be made for incentive measures for such registration, for example by means of a grant paid on the birth of the child.
13. The Assembly calls on member states to introduce transparent procedures for the giving up of newborn babies for national and international adoption purposes; mothers should be given a reasonable length of time within which to change their mind and wherever possible the consent of the father should not be overlooked; recourse to national and international adoption should not prevent or prohibit children from finding out about their origins.
14. Finally the Assembly considers that it would be a failure on the part of any state in the Council of Europe which does not adopt policies that give every child, irrespective of where they live or their origin, the opportunity to develop to their full potential. Every state should have an obligation to ensure that each child is always in a place of safety either with his/her family, a foster family or a family of adoption. No child should needlessly be put in harms way when education, health or the general social infrastructure of life is available. Failure to do this would be a disgrace to the individual country and its continued membership of the Council of Europe. The Council of Europe as a whole should endeavour to ensure that each state lives up to the obligations it has towards its children and there should be regular reports to the Assembly about the fulfillment of these obligations by member states.
1 Assembly debate on 27 June 2008 (27th Sitting) (see Doc. 11538, report of the Social, Health and Family Affairs Committee, rapporteur: Mr Hancock). Text adopted by the Assembly on 27 June 2008 (27th Sitting).
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