Saturday, December 26, 2009
Monday, December 21, 2009
And even more adoption on TV...
Coming this spring on PBS's INDEPENDENT LENS:
An unplanned pregnancy for an unplanned girl sets off SUNSHINE, a playful, yet ultimately stirring self-portrait of an adopted woman driven to search for answers through reconnection with her biological mother. Young, pregnant, single and unprepared, the daughter/director struggles with the incredible ironies of the family—that history somehow repeated itself—as she struggles to raise her own daughter and understand the plight of her biological mother, a small town Texas mayors daughter who gave birth to her secretly, in a home for unwed mothers.
Mother and daughter wrestle with tough questions and raw emotions over a fading social landscape that nevertheless continues to haunt them. Woven together from over 10 years of super 8 and video home movies, intimate family interviews, shimmering dance sequences and stylized reenactments, SUNSHINE offers a refreshingly rare glimpse on the current day transformations taking place within our most sacred of institutions, family.
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
First up: the battle over the estate left by 73-year-old Kitty Tipton-Oakes, widow of a famous jazz musician.
In 2006, Kitty, who suffered from dementia, died without a will, leaving an estate worth 300 Gs, which was to be sorted out among three missing adopted sons (two of whom hadn't spoken to her in 25 years), after paying fees to a guardian and a lawyer who happened to also represent a paranoid schizophrenic patient who may have been Kitty's only actual birth child who no one knew about.
Read the rest at the NY Post
Friday, December 11, 2009
Besides all the attention 'Find My Family' on ABC is getting, there are other shows highlighting adoption this week you may be interested in.
Carla Moquin will be appearing on the Dr. Phil show tomorrow. From the Dr. Phil website:
What would you do if someone said you no longer had the right to see your child? Dr. Phil's guests say they feel helpless and hopeless because they've been shut out of their children's lives and are facing lengthy court battles to get their kids back. Carla says she placed her daughter for what she thought was going to be an open adoption. It's been six years, and she says the adoptive parents reneged on their promise and won't let her communicate with the child. Legal analyst Lisa Bloom and an adoption attorney weigh in on the case. Then, John says he was looking forward to raising his baby with his childhood girlfriend, but when he got to the hospital to visit his daughter, he never got to meet her and nine months later still hasn't. Learn about the law that is keeping him from being a dad. And, a woman paid more than $20,000 and was given an ultrasound of the baby she was supposed to adopt, but motherhood didn't happen as planned. Find out how not to get scammed and the precautions to take when adopting a child.
And on 48 Hours -
CBS News will present, "The Lost Children," a "48 Hours" special, on Saturday, Dec. 12 at 10 p.m. ET/PT - the clmination of a two-year investigation by "48 Hours" into one of the largest foreign adoption scams in U.S. history.
Anchored by "48 Hours" correspondent Maureen Maher, who herself was adopted, "The Lost Children" profiles three families - Patti Sawyer, Mike and Kari Nyberg, and Elizabeth and Gary Muenzler - who adopted children from the South Pacific island of Samoa through the Utah-based Focus On Children adoption agency, only to face a heartbreaking decision years later.
"There exists a common goal for me as an adoptee and as a journalist, which is to find the truth,” says Maher. "I know from my own personal experience the challenge adopted children face in learning where they came from and determining their own identity."
Also just a note, this weekend (hopefully) this blog will temporarily go offline for a long overdue template upgrade. I'm seriously tired of the drowned girl.
Tuesday, December 08, 2009
Expanding a bit on a previous post....
Location: The Maine Studios
235 Presumpscot Street
Portland, ME 04103
When: Saturday, January 2, 2010 at 12:00 Noon – 6:30 PM
Snow Date will be Sunday, January 3, 2010. Same time.
RSVP: To Cathy Robishaw at tmc3910@yahoo. com
Noon - Welcome Reception
12:30pm - Showing of "The Triumvirate", by Jean Strauss
1:00pm - Showing of "Vital Records", by Jean Strauss
1:30pm - Showing of "Adoptee Rights: Philadelphia 2009", by Scott Hancock
Intermission and Light Fare
3:00pm - Maine debut of "Roots: Unknown", by Zara Phillips
3:45pm - Showing of Reunion Stories from Maine 2009
5:00pm - Maine debut of "For the Life of Me", by Jean Strauss
Hope to see you there!!
Saturday, December 05, 2009
With white Jewish lesbians for parents and two adopted brothers — one mixed-race and one Korean—Brooklyn teen Avery grew up in a unique and loving Jewish household. But when her curiosity about her African-American roots grows, she decides to contact her birth mother. This choice propels Avery into her own complicated exploration of race, identity, and family that threatens to distance her from the parents she’s always known. She begins staying away from home, starts skipping school, and risks losing her shot at the college track career she had always dreamed of. But when Avery decides to pick up the pieces of her life and make sense of her identity, the results are inspiring. OFF AND RUNNING follows Avery to the brink of adulthood, exploring the strength of family bonds and the lengths people must go to become themselves.
... and the official site:
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Sunday, October 25, 2009
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If so, I demand Fran Drescher do my voice.
Friday, October 23, 2009
Reposting via Ann Wilmer, please share and repost
A reporter for a national publication is interested in writing a story about the problems adoptees encounter when they have a medical need to know. If you have personal experience of this situation, contact me, please.
Ann can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Mark your calendars!
Maine Celebrates One Year of Original Birth Certificates!
Come to Maine, celebrate with us! We have reached a milestone, our one year mark since original birth certificates were made available to adult adoptees here in Maine.
We will have lots of activities planned for this day - updates on the schedule of events will be posted soon!
Saturday, January 2, 2010
9:00am - 9:00pm
The Maine Film Studios
235 Presumpscot Street
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Check this out
The right to obtain a copy of one’s own birth certificate is routinely exercised by all citizens, unless you were adopted. Although parent-child relationships are supposed to be fundamental and constitutionally protected, children’s relationships with their parents, grandparents, siblings and other family members are routinely and permanently severed, first, by the inadvertent effect of the unrepresented birthparent(s)’ signature on surrender documents and, second, by a court’s judgment of adoption. The child has no guardian ad litem, attorney or other qualified person to represent and protect his or her interests and the adoption statute does not require it.
Due process in adoption? Hardly
Wednesday, October 07, 2009
Sunday, October 04, 2009
So serious here. If there's even one post on this blog you've ever liked, I'm begging you on this one, honestly.
I support an adult adoptee's right to their own original birth certificate, without restrictions, conditions or limitations.
It's been a while since I've posted about the draconian, degrading and downright douchy Pennsylvania system for getting your birth certificate, so older readers please indulge me while I dredge up some ingratitude from the archives.
Let's take a little peek at the rules here:
Q: What happens if a biological parent files a consent form after the Division of Vital Records processes a request?
A: If consent is received at a later date, the identifying information will not be sent to the adoptee. Therefore, an adoptee may wish to request periodically to determine if a consent form has been filed.
Sounds mundane, right? It's not, it's anything but.
If you're an adoptee registering with the State.... well, that in itself is wrong. Adoptees are not allowed to register. Only natural parents. Adoptees are invited to send $10 to the state to see if their parents have registered. They'll cash your check either way.
But remember - YOU are not registering. You are paying the state a fee to have a data processing clerk with access to YOUR personal information and the personal information on your parents pull up your birth certificate record in the computer, and see if there's a field flagged saying mom or dad even knows about this non publicized registry.
Even better, this means, if Vital Records gets your form on a Tuesday, cashes your check, peeks in their computer, sends you off a Sorry! letter, and then on Wednesday gets a registration form from your mom or dad - they will NOT notify you.
Q: How can a biological parent register identifying information?
A: A biological parent whose child was born in Pennsylvania may file a Biological Parent Registration Identification Form with the Department of Health. Please click here to download the form. Forms may also be requested by calling the Division of Vital Records at 1-877-PA-HEALTH
Saturday, October 03, 2009
Seriously, go here now.
Wednesday, September 23, 2009
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
Oh it gets even better - check this out
Long-lost brothers find another sister
Sibling of reunited Maine family sees them on TODAY, TV reunion planned
Link for you diggers: http://digg.com/d315FRX
And for you Twitter-addicts, she's live-tweeting it now --> http://twitter.com/mskat
Monday, September 21, 2009
Strip-mining pregnant women for fresh-off-the-placenta babies has never been more profitable!
This is one recession-proof industry here folks!
Many thanks go to Niels at PPL. Go check out the comfy living bartering in bastards has made for a select few in adoption:
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Update: Press Release via PRLog is available here:
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
Each year Pound Pup Legacy presents the Demons of Adoption Award to raise a voice against adoption propaganda and the self congratulatory practices of the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute's annual Angels in Adoption AwardsTM
Until October 30 you will have the opportunity to vote for the recipient of this year's award.
The nominees are:
- Adoptions First for offering of a free birth mothers package;
- Athanasios Kollias aka Teo for the involvement in various Guatemalan child trafficking cases;
- Barnardos for promoting the removal of children and have them adopted as the solution to family breakdown;
- Bethany Christian Services for using coercive tactics obtaining infants for their customers;
- Deborra Lee-Furness for pushing laxer regulations in inter-country adoption;
- Harry and Bertha Holt for starting the placement of "special needs children" who are truly not adoptable, into the homes of already huge families;
- Independent Adoption Center for plugging their business on WE tv's Adoption Diaries, making them the non-denominational Bethany;
- Joint Council on International Children's Services for supporting temporary movement of foreign children to America because such trial-basis "exchange" programs "help" the adoption process;
- LDS Family Services for using coercive tactics in obtaining infants for adoption and for not respecting paternal rights;
- Scott and Karen Banks for child trafficking, coercive adoption practices and the abandonment of their adopted children;
- The Dutch Ministry of Justice for preventing research into corrupt adoption practices in China, because of diplomatic and business relations with that country;
- The Malawi Government for allowing Madonna to adopt Mercy James;
You can cast your vote by following this link.[http://poundpuplegacy.org/node/37652
Sunday, September 13, 2009
Check this out - My Identity Was A Government Secret
Monday, August 31, 2009
If so, please consider notifying Pam Hasegawa, who is attempting to collect numbers on how often this happened.
Editing to add: Also, if you are an adoptive parent in a closed adoption who received identifying information, please consider participating as well.
Please provide to her:
Date of birth:
Date of adoption (if known):
State where adoption took place:
Any details you'd like to add:
Email to: email@example.com
Sunday, August 30, 2009
you ungrateful bastard i gave birth to your mother and your father
Ponder that one for a moment.
From an SEO standpoint however, I'm happy to report that in google keyword ranking of the phrase you ungrateful bastard i gave birth to your mother and your father, ULB is #1.
An algorithmic accomplishment, truly.
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Crossposting from the Adoption News Blog, because it's that important. Give a digg, please? And share? Thanks.
thenation.com — Christian agencies lavish support services on pregnant women--if they give up their babies.
Sunday, August 23, 2009
Please rate, add to favorites and leave a comment - thanks!
ROOTS: UNKNOWN is an Award-winning 30 Min. documentary on the lifelong impact of Adoption. Directed and Produced by author, singer/songwriter Zara Phillips (www.zarahphillips.com) this film focuses on the Adult Adoptee. Interviews include Adoptees, their spouses and children and features soundtrack written and performed by Zara. Copies of this DVD are available for purchase, please contact Zara at her web site, www.zarahphillips.com
Saturday, August 22, 2009
After a period of silence, two more posts appeared today, along with a call for help. Please take a moment to look over the site, and if you believe voices like this should not be silenced, take a moment to write.
Having started my career in customer support, I know from experience email-based support is often extremely overwhelmed. Just one or two lines, or just a brief paragraph should be enough.
Please send an email to firstname.lastname@example.org
Put this in the subject line:
[WordPress #352210]: email@example.com
Update 08/29/09 - The site is now permanently hosted at Project DoD. For details and the new link, please visit below and update any bookmarks or reader feeds:
Sunday, August 16, 2009
Via Scott Hancock:
Direct link to video: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XKL196_coqY
I have had friends suggest that I write a book. I have taken that step. I have written one about my experiences with adoption, my search ideas, and my tips for activism. In the appendices of the book are groups and organizations that have the same goals and offer support for all positions in the adoption plane. I also have the current laws as of today. When each state is updated or changed, I will make the necessary changes to the book.
Please visit Amy to read more.
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
If you give permission, Origins-USA will also add the photo to its photo collection for future re-designs of the website, brochures, and other materials.
Please email your photos to firstname.lastname@example.org with the following information:
I give permission for Origins-USA to use the attached photo(s) for (check all that apply):
___ Educational video being produced by Sara Aderhold
___Brochures, fliers, other materials
Please pass this message on to others you know who may be interested.
The Origins-USA team
Wednesday, August 05, 2009
Reposting via Jane Jeong Trenka on Facebook
From the YouTube description:
This program on false and missing adoption records aired in South Korea June 13, 2009 on SBS. This program was circulated on the internet by Truth and Reconciliation for the Adoption Community of Korea (TRACK) with the permission of SBS. For more on TRACKs activities, please visit www.adoptionjustice.com
To share your experience accessing your adoption records, please go to Korean Adoptees for Fair Records Access (KAFRA)
Playlist of all six videos:
Please also visit: The documentary for you
Saturday, August 01, 2009
I am absolutely certain that members of my family have been infiltrated by anti-adoptee rights forces in an effort to dissuade me from volunteering with or attending the next Adoptee Rights Demonstration.
My evidence -
Exhibit A: The Laundry
There was no dirty laundry in this house before I left for Philadelphia on July 19th. How then, when I returned on the 24th did seven, yes seven, count them - seven - huge hampers of dirty clothes, towels, sheets appear in the laundry room? During my time in Philly, did the members of my family honestly need to wear two or three different items of clothing per day? Why the need to wear so many outfits? What events were they attending in my absence that required such a drastic turnover of outerwear?
They've all been interrogated separately, yet no satisfactory answer has been given as to the mountain of laundry, nor their seeming amnesia on how to operate a standard Kenmore washing machine and dryer.
Exhibit B: The Dishes
Similar to the lack of dirty laundry at my exit, the sink as well was clear of dirty dishes. Apparently there must have been heavily attended dinner parties every single night I was in Philadelphia, as there was not a single clean dish, cup, knife, fork or spoon to be found in the house upon my return. Not only were all dishes in the kitchen dirty, the dishes and silverware that had already been packed and boxed for our impending move had been retrieved from their storage container in the garage, smeared with some sort of industrial strength food products, and finally layered heavily with shellac to ensure their non-wash-ability upon my return from Philly.
Again, no satisfactory answer has been given to questions such as, "What the hell is this?", "Who the hell unpacked these dishes?", or even "What the hell is smeared all over this soup tureen that we have never once used the entire 10 years we've been in this house?"
Exhibit C: The Animals
Lest anyone think I am picking unnecessarily on my family -- of grown adults mind you -- allow me to add an even more sinister component to the anti-adoptee rights forces that have crept into my house during my absence. I believe my innocent pets to have been manipulated and used as hapless pawns.
The cats seem to have evolved opposable thumbs during my week away, allowing them to transport large quantities of litter far away from the litterbox and series of strategically placed handy-dandy PETCO X-Large Washable Litterbox Mats with adorable paw-print designs. How did kitty litter make it 14 feet from the basement to the bathroom down the hall, a bathroom that has never had a litterbox present in it at any time during my stay in this house? The cats remain mute on the topic.
Similarly, I am expected to believe that somehow the dog has developed a taste for furniture, as this german shepherd who has never once chewed anything but toys since he's been a puppy, apparently has been able to eat half the base off an antique 1739 secretary desk that was brought over from Antiqua by my in-law's ancestors.
Standing separate, these three items would be a minor annoyance at best. All combined together they point to an undeniable plot to prevent me from volunteering or attending ever again.
Sucks for them, it won't stop me.
As sad as I am that I missed the New Orleans Adoptee Rights Demonstration (note: once again because of a member of my family 'just happened' to get into a car accident last June.. That required me to drive him to a zillion doctor appointments for the next few months. Coincidence? Now, I think not.) nothing, nothing, nothing would have kept me from going to Philly. There were rumors and dark clouds on the employment horizon last March when I received my bonus from my ever so soon to be outsourced beloved job, so I'm glad I set aside that bonus money into a CD so it would be available.
It was extraordinary to meet up with people who I hadn't seen in such a long time, and meet for the first time friends who prior to this had been online only. And the pictures holy crap have there been boatloads of pictures. Sadly though, once again there is not a single picture of me to be found anywhere on the internet, as that fat bitch from the Kingston Regday was jumping into every shot again, she's so irritating.
I had heard last year about how many legislators had absolutely no idea that original birth certificates were sealed from adopted adults, but it wasn't until I was actually there and in the thick of it that I could experience this for myself.
But what balanced my dismay was the opposite of that - the number of legislators who said they had just heard about this, because one of their constituents had sent them a postcard, letter or email mentioning this and the demonstration. Over the past few months I'd heard from so many people who had for the first time sent a letter, sent a postcard, or sent the email from the Change.org petition. A lot of people who, before getting involved in the demonstration, had no idea who their assembly-person or senator even was. And a lot of people who are taking a first time interest in their local government, not only for adoptee rights but for a lot of issues that effect them.
Just a few years ago, that was me. I'd write if someone told me to write but mostly to just copy and paste a pre-defined letter because I was so afraid of saying 'the wrong thing'. But I'm happy about my volunteer work, if nothing it's introduced me to the people who represent me in Albany and despite the recent squabbles in the capitol, many of them I'm extremely proud of. (Note I've said many and not all, but that's another rant for another time.)
But mostly I'm just so happy for the people who wrote for the first time and continue to write. The people who get so pumped up and excited to get a response from their Senator. It's a hell of a lot harder to write about adoptee rights than it is to send off a letter about a recycling bill. After a lifetime of invalidation over the simplest of expressions about the fact you aren't entitled to your own identity, to send that letter for the first time is a big deal to many people. It means shrugging off the be grateful you weren't aborted and the aren't you lucky to be chosen and didn't you have so much of a better life. It means believing you have a right to that piece of paper everyone takes for granted without conditions or exceptions or exclusions.
And that's a big deal to me.
But now I must return. Not only do I still have laundry to catch up on, both my work and my personal inboxes overfloweth and I've yet to get caught up there. Which makes me think perhaps my place of employment has been infiltrated as well.... My online time most likely will continue to be limited as I prepare for my impending move and change of employment, so to those emails in my inbox I'm not ignoring you, seriously. Blame my family. I know I do.
But say, there's going to be a party in Louisville next July. Sure hope you can swing by. I know I'll be there.
Sunday, July 26, 2009
like just now.
and for a split second, I forget.
and then I remember, and I cry.
I miss her.
Friday, July 10, 2009
Now, don't even try to read the accompanying article at gawker.com, because it's all but unreadable.
And actually don't even try to watch the video, because with all the bleeps, it's entirely incoherent.
With the exception of the last bombshell thrown out at the end of the fight:
I don't know anything about this show. I haven't watched Real World since about Season 2 or so. I heard there were three adoptees this season which made me curious, but I just never got around to actually watching it on demand.
Anyway, I wasn't surprised or shocked by this. I had that bitchy line thrown at me growing up.
It's actually quite honest, to tell the truth. While it's ugly to hear and hurts like hell, I've always held this thought is deep inside the psyche of many a real kid.
If someone's so unlovable their own mother gave them away, that makes them fair game. So it's easy for a real kid who is lost for words to use someone's bastard status against them as a weapon.
I don't know the name of young woman who had that lovely but familiar line thrown at her, Emily I think it might be, but my eyes bled from reading through the article in the link above so I can't be sure.
It sucks to hear that line.
There was quite the bruhaha over that Orphan movie and it's one "It must be hard to love an adopted child" line.
Wonder if there will be the same type of stink over this one?
I'd love to be wrong, but somehow I doubt it. That adoptee from Real World unfortunately happens to be an adult, and that's a little long in the tooth for the general adoption-loving public.
Friday, July 03, 2009
This has been in my head a lot:
I remember the day we moved to Chicago, the summer before I started 7th grade. My best girlfriend was there sobbing hysterically as we hugged goodbye. But I didn't cry; I was too devastated to show any emotion at all. There was only one thought in my head at the time: "How will I ever be able to find her, so far away?"
Moving became a way of life after that. Just as I'd get settled, the world would turn upside down, and once again I'd lose everything that was familiar to me. Five high schools in four years really does a number on a kid.
I've lived in Long Island longer than I have any other place since first moving away from Pennsylvania all those years ago. While I never felt rooted, I felt in place and I felt a sense of connectedness (or a reasonable facsimile thereof) in my husband's extremely large and loving family who live so close by.
I have a sense of real mourning as we get ready to put this house I adore on the market. (Combined with a sense of real pissed-off-edness at the fact we may be forced to do a short sale due to hopelessly falling house prices. What the fuckity fuckity fuck?)
But mostly I have a lot of sorrow and loss. I do adore it here. And no offense Ohio, but you'd have to work hard to convince me you have anything that can come close to this:
Friday, June 26, 2009
You have read this, right?
If not, please do.
Even if you have, it's worth reading again.
Thursday, June 18, 2009
Just where did this guy work? Is there some adoptee-owned company out there that offers this as standard in their benefit package? If so, can I get a job there?
My search is done but frankly, I just find adoption so threatening, I really could use some time off from work too.
I'm just saying.
Thursday, June 11, 2009
A hardworking volunteer for the rally has made some postcards you can print and send to your state representatives. You can find these on the 'Help Spread The Word' page.
These postcards are formatted to work with Avery Postcards products 3263, 3377, 3381, 5689, 8383, 8387, 8577, or any cardstock paper. Postcards are available in PDF or Word format. Go check them out and while you're there, review all the other ways you can help spread the word and raise awareness for the demonstration!
Sunday, June 07, 2009
I've now seen pictures of
-- my brother
-- my sister
After careful consideration and hours of searching for even the slightest resemblance, I've come to the conclusion I definitely must take after my father.
Whoever he is.
I should never have sent you those pictures of me.
Whatever my name is
The title says it all.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
But Jeff asks much nicer
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Catricala, Hope Anne COHOES Hope Anne Catricala, native of Watervliet, died Tuesday, May 19, 2009 at the age of 60 in her home in Cohoes after a long battle with cancer.
She was the daughter of the late Fredrick Russell and Helen Duchene, and of her late adoptive parents, Vincent James Sr. and Eleanor G. (Cramer) Catricala. Survived by brother, John Catricala; sister, Eleanor (Catricala) Lampkin; stepbrother, Ralph Duddley; stepsister, Theresa Birch; and several nieces and nephews.
Other close family and friends include Clement and Alice Turgeon, Donna Turgeon, Ben, Nancy, Benjamin and Leah Fronczek, Matthew and Hannah Watermann and family, Ellen and Tom Sage, Mary Gemma, and Dawn Cary.
Hope was a member of Holy Trinity Parish, Cohoes, where she was a member of the Ladies of Saint Anne Society, a RCIA team member, a Eucharist minister, usher, and team member of the Liturgical Planning group.
Hope's life consisted of working as a life guard at the Watervliet City Pool, various clerk jobs, the NYS Museum and the NYS Transportation Department.
She was the president of the NENY Lupus Foundation in Albany, original founder of the Adoptee Political Action Coalition (APAC) and the NY Statewide Adoption Reform (NYSAR), and a member of the New York Adoption group. She fought for 17 years to pass legislation of the Bill of Adoptee Rights before both the Assembly and the Senate in Albany, N.Y.
She was a lover of animals and spent time volunteering at the Mohawk Hudson Animal Shelter. She was the recipient of the J.C. Penny Golden Rule Award and the Lupus Foundation of America Fleur-de-lis Award for her outstanding service to the community.
Special thanks to Dr. Duncan Savage, Dr. Nina Wu, the Community Hospice of Rensselaer and any of my angels: Ellen, Mary Ann, Hannah, Joan, Kathy, and Phyllis.
Calling hours will be held Friday from 4 to 7 p.m. at the Catricala Funeral Home Inc., 1597 Rte. 9, Clifton Park with a funeral Mass Saturday at 9 a.m. in the Holy Trinity Parish Church, Vliet Blvd, Cohoes. Burial will take place in St. Joseph's Cemetery in Waterford.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Holy Trinity Parish, 122 Vliet Blvd., Cohoes, NY 12047; the NENY Lupus Foundation, 790 Watervliet Shaker Rd., Latham, NY 12110; and the Mohawk & Hudson River Humane Society, 3 Oakland Ave., Menands, NY 12204.
Friday, April 24, 2009
The main purpose for RegDay is to increase public awareness of the International Soundex Reunion Registry or ISRR. Volunteers pass out flyers, hand out ISRR forms, answer questions, including media related and need to be able to do so calmly under pressure.
To Volunteer, send them a message on Myspace at
NUMBER HOURS AVALIABLE (between 8am and 10pm)
After the loss of his parents, filmmaker David Fisher feared that his tightly knit family was growing apart. Born and raised in Israel, the Fisher siblings—three brothers, one sister—were grappling with common concerns of families everywhere: divorce, child-raising, job pressures, emotional problems. Bittersweet, honest and touchingly funny, LOVE INVENTORY chronicles Fisher’s attempt to solve a personal mystery—uniting his troubled family in the process.
As Fisher and his siblings sift through family papers after the death of their father, a long-buried secret rises to the surface. For years, their mother had mentioned that her first children had been twins, a boy and a girl, but that the girl had disappeared shortly after birth. The Fishers knew they had an older brother who had died after only a few months, but were uncertain what to make of the stories about the missing twin. Did she die in infancy as well, and if so, where was she buried? Or could she even still be alive, unknowingly living in the same city? What would she look like—and what happened to her?
Watch online: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Id1MYmdYjGo
Daughter from Danang
A heartbreaking documentary that upsets your expectations of happily-ever-afters, Daughter from Danang is a riveting emotional drama of longing, identity, and the personal legacy of war. To all outward appearances, Heidi is the proverbial “all-American girl”, hailing from small town Pulaski, Tenn. But her birth name was Mai Thi Hiep. Born in Danang, Vietnam in 1968, she’s the mixed-race daughter of an American serviceman and a Vietnamese woman. Fearing for her daughter’s safety at the war’s end, Hiep’s mother sent her to the U.S. on “Operation Babylift”, a Ford administration plan to relocate orphans and mixed-race children to the U.S. for adoption before they fell victim to a frighteningly uncertain future in Vietnam after the Americans pulled out. Mother and daughter would know nothing about each other for 22 years.
Now, as if by a miracle, they are reunited in Danang. But what seems like the cue for a happy ending is anything but. Heidi and her Vietnamese relatives find themselves caught in a confusing clash of cultures and at the mercy of conflicting emotions that will change their lives forever. Through intimate and sometimes excruciating moments, Daughter from Danang profoundly shows how wide the chasms of cultural difference and how deep the wounds of war can run--even within one family.
Watch online: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2ueTwnMb8dI
Film homepage: http://www.daughterfromdanang.com/
An excellent review of this film is at Ethnically Incorrect
Sunday, April 19, 2009
I have very little knowledge of the Indian Child Welfare Act of 1977 but I know other people do.
Can someone please, please help this blogger - this is really important.
This law was made for a number of reasons, but the one that is of most importance to me is that my records can supposedly be opened due to genetic and medical reasons. It is a federal law. In my case I am not so much interested in finding my natural parents but rather looking for medical history and acknowledgment from the tribe so that I can apply for grant money so I can show that we can get the Prograf. Without that, there will be no transplant. Anybody know any adoption law? We're stumped.
The post is at http://beaux24.blogspot.com/2009/04/where-do-we-go-from-here.html
PS - Also even though I think it's twitter-attention-whorish to ask for RT's, if you're on Twitter if you could please RT this one I'd appreciate it. This is someone's health here.
Friday, April 17, 2009
I mean, check this out:
Louis Spector's memoir: 'The Gingerbread House at La Collina Drive: My Life Caged Behind Phil Spector's Wall Of Sound'. Louis and twin brother Gary were bought as a surprise Christmas present for Phil’s wife Ronnie when they were five.
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Is that a great title, or what?
I am so looking forward to this book.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
When people ask you how many children you have, or if you have any grandchildren, do you pause before you lie?
(whatever my name is)
Saturday, April 11, 2009
Two musicians have written and recorded a song they hope will revive a bill that would open private adoption records. The song, by Darryl McDaniels and Zara H. Phillips, is called “I’m Legit,” and it mixes the rap of Mr. McDaniels — also known as DMC of the pioneering hip-hop group Run-DMC — with the rock of Ms. Phillips in support of legislation that would give adult adoptees access to their original birth records. Similar legislation is being considered in nine other states.
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Friday, April 10, 2009
It’s Letter Writing Campaign Weekend!
Please go here:
for a sample letter.
Write your letters and send them Monday April 13th. This marks the beginning of the 100 days to the Demonstration!
Send this out to everyone you know! Blog it, email it, Facebook it! Everyone you know should be writing a letter to their legislators, urging them to introduce legislation in their states that allows unhampered access to original birth certificates to all adult adoptees.
Please take part in this very very important step on the road to Philly!
Wednesday, April 08, 2009
The song 'I'm Legit' has been written to raise awareness about the situation of closed birth records in the U.S. What I mean is the lack of rights that an adult adopted person has to have access to their own original birth certificate.
Both Darryl and I are adopted.I was adopted in the U.K where the records were opened in 1976,which meant that I could gain access to my original birth certificate and find out my birthmother's name.
Darryl does not have that right in fact their are only eight states that allow access, including Alabama, Alaska, Delaware, Kansas, New Hampshire, Oregon, Tennessee and, most recently, Maine. In New Jersey people have been trying for 29 years to change the law. Adopted people who just want to know their birth name find out family history,medical history
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Please be sure to add Zara as a friend, and leave a comment!
Friday, April 03, 2009
Wednesday, April 01, 2009
I'm so neglectful. I don't have time to be adopted all the time right now.
Work has me running.
Any free time I have, I'm spending it here. And here. And here.
But mostly here.
You're going there, right? Because I just don't have time for you here, but I've got time there.
So go here.
Hey go here too.
See you there.
I got to get back to work.
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Being (for now) employed while people you admire and respect get kicked to the curb sucks.
Please do not tell me how lucky I am to have survived today still employed, because I don't feel lucky.
I feel survivor's guilt, and I feel terrified.
It's got to get better soon, right?
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
If you've never heard about adoptee rights before, here's a little info for you.
Adult adoptees in most states are denied access to their own birth certificates.
If you want your birth certificate, all you need to is go online or visit your local vital records off and pay a small fee. No one asks you why you want it, how ridiculous would that be?
If you're an adoptee who lives in a restricted access state, it becomes a little more complicated. You need to petition a court and offer yourself up to the luck gods that you have a judge in your county seat who views you as an adult. Sometimes you need to subject yourself to court-mandated counseling to prove you're emotionally stable enough to have this forbidden piece of paper. Some places you need to hire a lawyer, other places you can petition yourself. Sometimes you need the permission of your adoptive parents, no matter how old you are.
Always, it costs a lot more than a Vital Records copying fee. Me, I've spent thousands so far. With nary a birth certificate to show for it.
And always, always, always, are you told, unasked, to be grateful you weren't aborted.
Be grateful you weren't thrown in a dumpster.
You do know who your real parents are, right, the ones who raised you?
So that's a little what this site is about.
Thanks for dropping by, I'm glad you're here. Check out the links on both sides, there's good stuff and good people there.
By the way, on your way out the door, we're having a little party in Philadelphia this July.
Because we think the system sucks.
You're more than welcome to come. We the illegitimate know how to throw one hell of a shindig, and we don't discriminate against the non-adopted.
And we'd love it if you'd join us.
So check us out:
If we're going to have a seemingly neverending discussion about the sorrow and remorse caused by abortion, then it is about g-d time that we hear from birth mothers too.
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Sunday, March 15, 2009
THE ADOPTION SHOW
Voices Ending the Myth
A new segment
Sunday March 15, 2009
9:00 pm (est)
Is it against the law for you to possess your own birth certificate?
All people, adopted or not, have a right to access government records about their own lives. That’s why there will be an Adoptee Rights Demonstration in Philadelphia, PA, at 11 AM on July 21, 2009. This demonstration will coincide with the opening day of the Legislative Summit of the National Conference of State Legislators.
Join Michelle, Theresa, Cathy, Joy, Jimm and Dianne on The Adoption Show for an update on the Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration.
For information about the demonstration and to donate toward the Adoptee Rights Demonstration, go here:
Contact The Adoption Show
Also: If you have Twitter - can you please post this as a status:
RT @ARDPhilly Join the Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration on The Adoption Show Sun 9PM EST http://tr.im/ho27
Saturday, March 14, 2009
Yeah we did teh interwebnets radio with the ever so professional Michelle Edmunds and the incredibly skilled and quite handsome if I say so myself Thad Pedro producing.
I had to take multiple restroom breaks because I had a sore throat again today and drank way too much tea to try not to sound like I was doing a bad Demi Moore impersonation. She's not planning on adopting, by the way, did you hear that? The National Inquirer said her young man ain't stayin' home as much as she'd like, and there's nothing better for a troubled relationship than another woman's baby. But she says they're full of crap.
Anyway, The Adoption Show. You know I'll do the usual formal announcement but this is the fun one, the behind the scenes one, the real dirt one.
Here's the real deal on The Adoption Show:
It's a boatload of fun.
Oh wow, to talk about adoption, adoption, adoption, adoption, with great people and great pets, even if I did zone out when Miss Kitty was talking. My animals weren't on the show, but they did listen and provide feedback. My cats said I sounded like nails on a chalkboard wielded by a crack addict, and my dog said I sounded angelic, but he's really in adopto-fog so I take the words of my cats over his. They have no adoption gratitude whatsoever and could care less that I rescued them from the shelter.
We talked about the Protest and we talked about Philly and we talked about New Orleans and we gave all sorts of shouts outs and dedications to all sorts of beautiful people - but guess who we missed!? Only the two most important people behind the Show - Michelle and Thad themselves!
So here's a dedication to Michelle and Thad - sending out very special adoptee Run-D.M.C with Radio Station
Radio Station - Run-D.M.C.