Thursday, March 26, 2009

The word of the day is


Being (for now) employed while people you admire and respect get kicked to the curb sucks.

Please do not tell me how lucky I am to have survived today still employed, because I don't feel lucky.

I feel survivor's guilt, and I feel terrified.

It's got to get better soon, right?


Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Welcome visitors from Shakesville and Disqus

If you're coming here from the comments in this fantastic article, (and thank you, whoever linked me) welcome.

If you've never heard about adoptee rights before, here's a little info for you.

Adult adoptees in most states are denied access to their own birth certificates.

If you want your birth certificate, all you need to is go online or visit your local vital records off and pay a small fee. No one asks you why you want it, how ridiculous would that be?

If you're an adoptee who lives in a restricted access state, it becomes a little more complicated. You need to petition a court and offer yourself up to the luck gods that you have a judge in your county seat who views you as an adult. Sometimes you need to subject yourself to court-mandated counseling to prove you're emotionally stable enough to have this forbidden piece of paper. Some places you need to hire a lawyer, other places you can petition yourself. Sometimes you need the permission of your adoptive parents, no matter how old you are.

Always, it costs a lot more than a Vital Records copying fee. Me, I've spent thousands so far. With nary a birth certificate to show for it.

And always, always, always, are you told, unasked, to be grateful you weren't aborted.

Be grateful you weren't thrown in a dumpster.

You do know who your real parents are, right, the ones who raised you?

So that's a little what this site is about.

Thanks for dropping by, I'm glad you're here. Check out the links on both sides, there's good stuff and good people there.

By the way, on your way out the door, we're having a little party in Philadelphia this July.

Because we think the system sucks.

You're more than welcome to come. We the illegitimate know how to throw one hell of a shindig, and we don't discriminate against the non-adopted.

And we'd love it if you'd join us.

So check us out:


Please digg and share - this is important.


If we're going to have a seemingly neverending discussion about the sorrow and remorse caused by abortion, then it is about g-d time that we hear from birth mothers too.

read more | digg story

Submitted to digg by MTHS


Sunday, March 15, 2009

Join the Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration on The Adoption Show

Voices Ending the Myth

A new segment
Sunday March 15, 2009
9:00 pm (est)

Is it against the law for you to possess your own birth certificate?

All people, adopted or not, have a right to access government records about their own lives. That’s why there will be an Adoptee Rights Demonstration in Philadelphia, PA, at 11 AM on July 21, 2009. This demonstration will coincide with the opening day of the Legislative Summit of the National Conference of State Legislators.

Join Michelle, Theresa, Cathy, Joy, Jimm and Dianne on The Adoption Show for an update on the Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration.

For information about the demonstration and to donate toward the Adoptee Rights Demonstration, go here:

Contact The Adoption Show

Michelle Edmunds
Host, Producer

Thaddeus Pedro
Recording Producer

Also: If you have Twitter - can you please post this as a status:

RT @ARDPhilly Join the Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration on The Adoption Show Sun 9PM EST


Saturday, March 14, 2009

I didn't hear Miss Kitty

But Joy says she was on the radio too. I think I wasn't paying attention. I was so nervous my hands were shaking and my knees were a-knocking. They actually still are.

Yeah we did teh interwebnets radio with the ever so professional Michelle Edmunds and the incredibly skilled and quite handsome if I say so myself Thad Pedro producing.

I had to take multiple restroom breaks because I had a sore throat again today and drank way too much tea to try not to sound like I was doing a bad Demi Moore impersonation. She's not planning on adopting, by the way, did you hear that? The National Inquirer said her young man ain't stayin' home as much as she'd like, and there's nothing better for a troubled relationship than another woman's baby. But she says they're full of crap.

Anyway, The Adoption Show. You know I'll do the usual formal announcement but this is the fun one, the behind the scenes one, the real dirt one.

Here's the real deal on The Adoption Show:

It's a boatload of fun.

Oh wow, to talk about adoption, adoption, adoption, adoption, with great people and great pets, even if I did zone out when Miss Kitty was talking. My animals weren't on the show, but they did listen and provide feedback. My cats said I sounded like nails on a chalkboard wielded by a crack addict, and my dog said I sounded angelic, but he's really in adopto-fog so I take the words of my cats over his. They have no adoption gratitude whatsoever and could care less that I rescued them from the shelter.

We talked about the Protest and we talked about Philly and we talked about New Orleans and we gave all sorts of shouts outs and dedications to all sorts of beautiful people - but guess who we missed!? Only the two most important people behind the Show - Michelle and Thad themselves!

So here's a dedication to Michelle and Thad - sending out very special adoptee Run-D.M.C with Radio Station

Radio Station - Run-D.M.C.


Over at Facebook...

....there's something undeniably beautiful going on.


A family album, where we all look alike.


Friday, March 13, 2009

Brought to you from the Society to Encourage Infant Adoption Because Those Older Kids From Foster Care or Orphanages, They're Freaking Scary

ORPHAN trailer in HD

But wait! There's more!


The tragic loss of their unborn child has devastated Kate and John, taking a toll on both their marriage and Kate’s fragile psyche as she is plagued by nightmares and haunted by demons from her past.

Struggling to regain some semblance of normalcy in their lives, the couple decides to adopt another child.

At the local orphanage, both John and Kate find themselves strangely drawn to a young girl named Esther. Almost as soon as they welcome Esther into their home, however, an alarming series of events begins to unfold, leading Kate to believe that there’s something wrong with Esther—this seemingly angelic little girl is not what she appears to be.

Concerned for the safety of her family, Kate tries to get John and others to see past Esther’s sweet facade. But her warnings go unheeded until it may be too late…for everyone.


Thursday, March 12, 2009

I've been DENIED

And I don't much like it.


My Friend Celeste Says:

From her post NonMom:

I have never met a mother who doesn't want to reunite with her child .... I only know the many who never stopped loving the son or daughter their parents forced them to surrender to secretive, closed adoptions. Nor, have I met adoptees who don't want to reunite with their mothers. I have met mothers and adoptees whose reunions were not successful or are stagnate. I know the many younger mothers, today, suckered into "open adoption" arrangements that work ONLY so long as they stay on the good side of the adoptive mothers.

That said, I welcome hearing from mothers who don't want to reunite with their children, adoptees who don't want to reunite with their mothers, moms and adoptees who have broken off contact, and from young moms happy in open adoptions. Email me, please, at

I'd be rather interested in hearing what they say too.

Because to me, rejection is incomprehensible.

And above all, humiliating.


Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Click, read, and listen to South Dakota

Just go here now:

I'm heading there myself, I just had to run here first to share the news.

Meet you there, right after I finish downloading RealPlayer.......


NOT digging this one


At first I got excited; I thought CNN was doing an article on people using the internet to find their missing family.

Silly me!

It's about using the internet to lose your family!

What was I thinking?


Monday, March 09, 2009

Meet the Parents: The Dark Side of Overseas Adoption by Scott Carney

A Midwestern kid's family believes his birth parents put him up for adoption. An Indian couple claim he was kidnapped from them and sold. Who's right?

read more | digg story

Scott Carney's blog post on his article can be read here


Friday, March 06, 2009

Philly Phridays #23: Twitterin’ Philly

Twitterers you wanna follow for Philly sound bytes, in 140 characters or less:

'Cause if you can't say it in under 140, it's just not worth saying!

Go on and give them a follow. You'll be an expert in all things Philly by this summer at the Protest.


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