Monday, August 31, 2009

Identifying information at time of adoption?

Was identifying information on your original name or the name of your first parents made available to your adoptive parents, or made available to you by a third party such as the lawyer who handled your adoption? This happened occasionally in private adoptions.

If so, please consider notifying Pam

Editing to add: Also, if you are an adoptive parent in a closed adoption who received identifying information, please consider participating as well.


Sunday, August 30, 2009

One of the most perplexing google searches I've seen yet that brought someone to this blog

you ungrateful bastard i gave birth to your mother and your father

Ponder that one for a moment.

From an SEO standpoint however, I'm happy to report that in google keyword ranking of the phrase you ungrateful bastard i gave birth to your mother and your father, ULB is #1.

An algorithmic accomplishment, truly.


Thursday, August 27, 2009

Shotgun Adoption

Crossposting from the Adoption News Blog, because it's that important. Give a digg, please? And share? Thanks. — Christian agencies lavish support services on pregnant women--if they give up their babies.

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Sunday, August 23, 2009

Trailer for 'Roots: Unknown' up on YouTube

Please rate, add to favorites and leave a comment - thanks!

ROOTS: UNKNOWN is an Award-winning 30 Min. documentary on the lifelong impact of Adoption. Directed and Produced by author, singer/songwriter Zara Phillips ( this film focuses on the Adult Adoptee. Interviews include Adoptees, their spouses and children and features soundtrack written and performed by Zara. Copies of this DVD are available for purchase, please contact Zara at her web site,


Saturday, August 22, 2009

Please help 'A Search for Survivors'

Yet again, A Search for Survivors has been threatened with suspension.

After a period of silence, two more posts appeared today, along with a call for help. Please take a moment to look over the site, and if you believe voices like this should not be silenced, take a moment to write.

Having started my career in customer support, I know from experience email-based support is often extremely overwhelmed. Just one or two lines, or just a brief paragraph should be enough.

Please send an email to

Put this in the subject line:
[WordPress #352210]:

Thank you.

Update 08/29/09 - The site is now permanently hosted at Project DoD. For details and the new link, please visit below and update any bookmarks or reader feeds:


Sunday, August 16, 2009

Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration video

Via Scott Hancock:

Direct link to video:

PS Please remember that video adds 50 pounds. Horrible, isn't it? It's true, it's a proven fact. I swear. That 'video adds 10 pounds' lie you hear all the time, that's bullshit. It's 50 pounds. End of story; scout's honor. It also adds 20 years. And changes your hair color. Any images you see of me in this film, just know I'm actually 50 pounds lighter. And 20 years younger. Oh, and I'm a blond and have a kick-ass tan. Honest. Would I lie to you?


Shadows of the Family Tree

Via AmyAdoptee:

I have had friends suggest that I write a book. I have taken that step. I have written one about my experiences with adoption, my search ideas, and my tips for activism. In the appendices of the book are groups and organizations that have the same goals and offer support for all positions in the adoption plane. I also have the current laws as of today. When each state is updated or changed, I will make the necessary changes to the book.

Please visit Amy to read more.


Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Photos needed for Origins-USA Video!

Thanks to the generous support of video donors, and in-kind donation from Producer Sara Aderhold, production of Origins-USA's important video about adoption loss and the movement for mothers' rights and keeping families together is now underway.

This professionally produced video will feature mothers telling their stories of surrender, loss, and reunion, and will also be packed with facts and statistics from credible sources like the United Nations. It will also include PHOTOS. Rather than spending money purchasing stock photos, Origins-USA would like to use donated photos from real mothers who lost children to adoption.

Please help by sending your scanned or digital copies of the following photos from moms who lost children to adoption:

- Photos of yourself when you were pregnant
- Photos of maternity home or other place where you lived while pregnant
- Photos of you and your baby pre-surrender
- Family photos, dating photos, and other photos from around the time period of your pregnancy and surrender
- Reunion photos
- Photos from marches, protests, support group meetings, and other empowering photos of mothers taking action

If you give permission, Origins-USA will also add the photo to its photo collection for future re-designs of the website, brochures, and other materials.

Please email your photos to with the following information:




I give permission for Origins-USA to use the attached photo(s) for (check all that apply):

___ Educational video being produced by Sara Aderhold

___ Website

___Brochures, fliers, other materials

Please pass this message on to others you know who may be interested.


The Origins-USA team


Wednesday, August 05, 2009

The Mystery of #4709 - Who Am I?

Reposting via Jane Jeong Trenka on Facebook

From the YouTube description:

This program on false and missing adoption records aired in South Korea June 13, 2009 on SBS. This program was circulated on the internet by Truth and Reconciliation for the Adoption Community of Korea (TRACK) with the permission of SBS. For more on TRACKs activities, please visit

To share your experience accessing your adoption records, please go to Korean Adoptees for Fair Records Access (KAFRA)

Playlist of all six videos:

Please also visit: The documentary for you


Saturday, August 01, 2009

It's a conspiracy

I am convinced.

I am absolutely certain that members of my family have been infiltrated by anti-adoptee rights forces in an effort to dissuade me from volunteering with or attending the next Adoptee Rights Demonstration.

My evidence -

Exhibit A: The Laundry
There was no dirty laundry in this house before I left for Philadelphia on July 19th. How then, when I returned on the 24th did seven, yes seven, count them - seven - huge hampers of dirty clothes, towels, sheets appear in the laundry room? During my time in Philly, did the members of my family honestly need to wear two or three different items of clothing per day? Why the need to wear so many outfits? What events were they attending in my absence that required such a drastic turnover of outerwear?

They've all been interrogated separately, yet no satisfactory answer has been given as to the mountain of laundry, nor their seeming amnesia on how to operate a standard Kenmore washing machine and dryer.

Exhibit B: The Dishes
Similar to the lack of dirty laundry at my exit, the sink as well was clear of dirty dishes. Apparently there must have been heavily attended dinner parties every single night I was in Philadelphia, as there was not a single clean dish, cup, knife, fork or spoon to be found in the house upon my return. Not only were all dishes in the kitchen dirty, the dishes and silverware that had already been packed and boxed for our impending move had been retrieved from their storage container in the garage, smeared with some sort of industrial strength food products, and finally layered heavily with shellac to ensure their non-wash-ability upon my return from Philly.

Again, no satisfactory answer has been given to questions such as, "What the hell is this?", "Who the hell unpacked these dishes?", or even "What the hell is smeared all over this soup tureen that we have never once used the entire 10 years we've been in this house?"

Exhibit C: The Animals
Lest anyone think I am picking unnecessarily on my family -- of grown adults mind you -- allow me to add an even more sinister component to the anti-adoptee rights forces that have crept into my house during my absence. I believe my innocent pets to have been manipulated and used as hapless pawns.

The cats seem to have evolved opposable thumbs during my week away, allowing them to transport large quantities of litter far away from the litterbox and series of strategically placed handy-dandy PETCO X-Large Washable Litterbox Mats with adorable paw-print designs. How did kitty litter make it 14 feet from the basement to the bathroom down the hall, a bathroom that has never had a litterbox present in it at any time during my stay in this house? The cats remain mute on the topic.

Similarly, I am expected to believe that somehow the dog has developed a taste for furniture, as this german shepherd who has never once chewed anything but toys since he's been a puppy, apparently has been able to eat half the base off an antique 1739 secretary desk that was brought over from Antiqua by my in-law's ancestors.

Standing separate, these three items would be a minor annoyance at best. All combined together they point to an undeniable plot to prevent me from volunteering or attending ever again.

Sucks for them, it won't stop me.

As sad as I am that I missed the New Orleans Adoptee Rights Demonstration (note: once again because of a member of my family 'just happened' to get into a car accident last June.. That required me to drive him to a zillion doctor appointments for the next few months. Coincidence? Now, I think not.) nothing, nothing, nothing would have kept me from going to Philly. There were rumors and dark clouds on the employment horizon last March when I received my bonus from my ever so soon to be outsourced beloved job, so I'm glad I set aside that bonus money into a CD so it would be available.

It was extraordinary to meet up with people who I hadn't seen in such a long time, and meet for the first time friends who prior to this had been online only. And the pictures holy crap have there been boatloads of pictures. Sadly though, once again there is not a single picture of me to be found anywhere on the internet, as that fat bitch from the Kingston Regday was jumping into every shot again, she's so irritating.

I had heard last year about how many legislators had absolutely no idea that original birth certificates were sealed from adopted adults, but it wasn't until I was actually there and in the thick of it that I could experience this for myself.

But what balanced my dismay was the opposite of that - the number of legislators who said they had just heard about this, because one of their constituents had sent them a postcard, letter or email mentioning this and the demonstration. Over the past few months I'd heard from so many people who had for the first time sent a letter, sent a postcard, or sent the email from the petition. A lot of people who, before getting involved in the demonstration, had no idea who their assembly-person or senator even was. And a lot of people who are taking a first time interest in their local government, not only for adoptee rights but for a lot of issues that effect them.

Just a few years ago, that was me. I'd write if someone told me to write but mostly to just copy and paste a pre-defined letter because I was so afraid of saying 'the wrong thing'. But I'm happy about my volunteer work, if nothing it's introduced me to the people who represent me in Albany and despite the recent squabbles in the capitol, many of them I'm extremely proud of. (Note I've said many and not all, but that's another rant for another time.)

But mostly I'm just so happy for the people who wrote for the first time and continue to write. The people who get so pumped up and excited to get a response from their Senator. It's a hell of a lot harder to write about adoptee rights than it is to send off a letter about a recycling bill. After a lifetime of invalidation over the simplest of expressions about the fact you aren't entitled to your own identity, to send that letter for the first time is a big deal to many people. It means shrugging off the be grateful you weren't aborted and the aren't you lucky to be chosen and didn't you have so much of a better life. It means believing you have a right to that piece of paper everyone takes for granted without conditions or exceptions or exclusions.

And that's a big deal to me.

But now I must return. Not only do I still have laundry to catch up on, both my work and my personal inboxes overfloweth and I've yet to get caught up there. Which makes me think perhaps my place of employment has been infiltrated as well.... My online time most likely will continue to be limited as I prepare for my impending move and change of employment, so to those emails in my inbox I'm not ignoring you, seriously. Blame my family. I know I do.

But say, there's going to be a party in Louisville next July. Sure hope you can swing by. I know I'll be there.


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